blackberry
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Ok, I’ve had a major crush on this guy at my work for ages. But I’ve only just recently broke up with my boyfriend, (nothing to do with this guy), and so have never been able to do anything about it. Well, at a girl at work’s b-day party, I and he got on well and I had a good feeling about him. But after I left the party, he asked the girl out! And she said yes. So they went out for two weeks, which really got me down. Then a few nights ago I went him out on a long drive with him after he fell out with his mum, and we ended up kissing. He told me he never wanted to ask the girl out in the first place, and he’d been rather drunk at the time. And that he’d also fancied me for a while, but never said because of my boyfriend.
He broke up with her the next day, and it looks like me and him are starting something. But she’s been so down about the break up despite only being together for a couple of weeks. She’d told all her friends that they had a real connection, how affectionate he was with her, the dirty phone calls they had, and how she thought he was “The One” and that they would get married and have kids. He’s told me he only ever kissed her once and that was when he was drunk at her party.
But the way she goes on about it is like they were going out for years. And what’s made it worse is the fact he told her they may have a chance of getting back together once she stopped acting so childish and after he gets his new house sorted. He says it defiantly won’t happen because she texted him 6 times a day while they were going out, and she was almost obsessive with him. But now she’s convinced he wants to be with her and, of all things that his mother made him break up with her because of him moving into his new house, and that’s the reason they aren’t together.
I feel guilty because I know I’m the actual reason they aren’t together. But because of this whole situation and because of what she says happened in their relationship, I’m now both nervous of screwing this up because, despite his bad choice in wording, he is actually a really great guy, and of how he really thinks of me, because of what she’s told me happened during their two week fling.
I’m also cross because he told her one of the reasons he was breaking up with her was that she invited her ex to a second birthday do that week, a fact only me and a good friend of mine at work could have possible shared with him, so I’m worried he’s dropped me in it. And she’s been going on about this info too, because she says she and this ex were just friends. But she told me the night of the party that she used this ex for sex just a week before, so I know that’s not entirely true.
So all this info combined tells me that she isn’t above lying about her relationships, so I don’t know entirely what to believe. I want to believe him, but because what she has told me sounds iffy, I worry that he may just be using me as an excuse to get out of this thing with her. Plus I also know for a fact that if the situation was reversed, she wouldn’t give a crap about me and how I would feel. So what should I do? Because as you can see this is a rather complicated situation. Any advice would be helpful.
He broke up with her the next day, and it looks like me and him are starting something. But she’s been so down about the break up despite only being together for a couple of weeks. She’d told all her friends that they had a real connection, how affectionate he was with her, the dirty phone calls they had, and how she thought he was “The One” and that they would get married and have kids. He’s told me he only ever kissed her once and that was when he was drunk at her party.
But the way she goes on about it is like they were going out for years. And what’s made it worse is the fact he told her they may have a chance of getting back together once she stopped acting so childish and after he gets his new house sorted. He says it defiantly won’t happen because she texted him 6 times a day while they were going out, and she was almost obsessive with him. But now she’s convinced he wants to be with her and, of all things that his mother made him break up with her because of him moving into his new house, and that’s the reason they aren’t together.
I feel guilty because I know I’m the actual reason they aren’t together. But because of this whole situation and because of what she says happened in their relationship, I’m now both nervous of screwing this up because, despite his bad choice in wording, he is actually a really great guy, and of how he really thinks of me, because of what she’s told me happened during their two week fling.
I’m also cross because he told her one of the reasons he was breaking up with her was that she invited her ex to a second birthday do that week, a fact only me and a good friend of mine at work could have possible shared with him, so I’m worried he’s dropped me in it. And she’s been going on about this info too, because she says she and this ex were just friends. But she told me the night of the party that she used this ex for sex just a week before, so I know that’s not entirely true.
So all this info combined tells me that she isn’t above lying about her relationships, so I don’t know entirely what to believe. I want to believe him, but because what she has told me sounds iffy, I worry that he may just be using me as an excuse to get out of this thing with her. Plus I also know for a fact that if the situation was reversed, she wouldn’t give a crap about me and how I would feel. So what should I do? Because as you can see this is a rather complicated situation. Any advice would be helpful.