Lizzy Smith
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My boyfriend of almost 3 years looks through girls photos on facebook pretty much on a daily basis. Most of them are people he is friends with and he will literally sit there and go through numerous girls photos, sometimes only stopping and moving onto the next girls photos after viewing 300+ pictures. Pretty much all of them are girls I don't know, some are in his immediate friendship group and some are even my friends whom he's barely even met.
I feel pretty uneasy about this, in a weird sense I'd rather he looked at porn rather than girls who are 'real' that he actually knows. Im just wondering is this normal? Is it acceptable given that we are in a relationship? And should I be concerned?
Personally I find this really sleazy of him to do and it makes me think less of him. Almost a year ago now I also found out he looks at porn, until then I'd thought he was one of those rare decent men who respected that he was now in a relationship. We've had lots of problems regarding this, I'll admit now I don't have the best self confidence, and even after I explained how it made me feel and that I believed it is damaging out relationship he still refuses to stop looking at it. As a result our sex life has become pretty much non existant as I feel crappier and crappier about myself each time I find a damp tissue by the computer. These days I feel totally unsexy and unattractive and on the rare occasion we do have sex and he pretty much pays my body no attention, he just jumps on and uses me as something to deposit his load in and then rolls over to sleep.
The odd thing is sex aside he is still attentive towards me and seems to still like me, we live together and everything else is fine, he just doesn't seem to want me and apparently prefers other women. Im worried that our relationship has become a friendship. I used to try so hard to keep things going and even now I try to initiate sex but he just turns me down. I'd say we'd do it on average twice a month. pretty pathetic huh. All in all I feel pretty shit.
Any help or advice would mean the world to me right now.
Thankyou
I feel pretty uneasy about this, in a weird sense I'd rather he looked at porn rather than girls who are 'real' that he actually knows. Im just wondering is this normal? Is it acceptable given that we are in a relationship? And should I be concerned?
Personally I find this really sleazy of him to do and it makes me think less of him. Almost a year ago now I also found out he looks at porn, until then I'd thought he was one of those rare decent men who respected that he was now in a relationship. We've had lots of problems regarding this, I'll admit now I don't have the best self confidence, and even after I explained how it made me feel and that I believed it is damaging out relationship he still refuses to stop looking at it. As a result our sex life has become pretty much non existant as I feel crappier and crappier about myself each time I find a damp tissue by the computer. These days I feel totally unsexy and unattractive and on the rare occasion we do have sex and he pretty much pays my body no attention, he just jumps on and uses me as something to deposit his load in and then rolls over to sleep.
The odd thing is sex aside he is still attentive towards me and seems to still like me, we live together and everything else is fine, he just doesn't seem to want me and apparently prefers other women. Im worried that our relationship has become a friendship. I used to try so hard to keep things going and even now I try to initiate sex but he just turns me down. I'd say we'd do it on average twice a month. pretty pathetic huh. All in all I feel pretty shit.
Any help or advice would mean the world to me right now.
Thankyou