Hey guys, I've been dating this boy for 6 months now. We've both introduced each other to our parents already, so I'm confident that I'm in a serious relationship with him. He's very kind to me and treats me with respect. When we first started dating, I couldn't have been happier with anyone else. He would call me almost every night to ask me how my day was, and text me whenever he couldn't call. During our first month of dating, we'd go out almost everyday and we enjoyed every second of it.
However as the holidays came to an end, classes started and we saw each other less. I was initially all right with this, but slowly the absence of him started to affect me. Despite being in the same university (and our classes are next door to each other), we don't meet up everyday. In fact, we only go out for lunch ONCE a week. Our breaks last an hour before the next class starts, so I literally see him an hour a week. He also stopped calling or texting me, with the excuse that he never liked doing it in the first place. When I confronted him that he had changed and wasn't like he used to be, he said, "That was before we were exclusive. Now that we're in a stable relationship, we don't need to call or text anymore. I feel more comfortable this way." I love him, so I complied.
But I've asked all my friends who have boyfriends, and they all said that they at the VERY LEAST text their boyfriend once a day. They told me that what I'm dealing with is not normal, and I should demand that he call me once a night. But I don't want to FORCE him into calling me - I believe he should do it sincerely.
I've argued with him over this once before, and he told me he's just busy. I know he's not cheating on me because I'm close to all his friends, and they say that this is just his "character" to be so aloof and distant. When I tried to break up with him, he told me I was asking too much of him. That made me feel guilty so I took him back.
Now I'm not so sure whether I'm asking too much of him, or not asking for enough. As of today, I have not seen or heard from him in 2 and a half weeks. How is that asking for too much? What am I doing wrong? And most importantly, what is going on in his head?
Please don't give crude answers. I just want an outsider's opinion on this situation. Thank you so much for helping me out.
However as the holidays came to an end, classes started and we saw each other less. I was initially all right with this, but slowly the absence of him started to affect me. Despite being in the same university (and our classes are next door to each other), we don't meet up everyday. In fact, we only go out for lunch ONCE a week. Our breaks last an hour before the next class starts, so I literally see him an hour a week. He also stopped calling or texting me, with the excuse that he never liked doing it in the first place. When I confronted him that he had changed and wasn't like he used to be, he said, "That was before we were exclusive. Now that we're in a stable relationship, we don't need to call or text anymore. I feel more comfortable this way." I love him, so I complied.
But I've asked all my friends who have boyfriends, and they all said that they at the VERY LEAST text their boyfriend once a day. They told me that what I'm dealing with is not normal, and I should demand that he call me once a night. But I don't want to FORCE him into calling me - I believe he should do it sincerely.
I've argued with him over this once before, and he told me he's just busy. I know he's not cheating on me because I'm close to all his friends, and they say that this is just his "character" to be so aloof and distant. When I tried to break up with him, he told me I was asking too much of him. That made me feel guilty so I took him back.
Now I'm not so sure whether I'm asking too much of him, or not asking for enough. As of today, I have not seen or heard from him in 2 and a half weeks. How is that asking for too much? What am I doing wrong? And most importantly, what is going on in his head?
Please don't give crude answers. I just want an outsider's opinion on this situation. Thank you so much for helping me out.