I am really having trouble understanding why I am having so much trouble in the romance department. I really want to find someone to have a real relationship with but so far I have come up empty handed. I have made MANY mistakes along the way I think I have learned from most of them. I don't necessarily talk to women only with the intention of them being a potential gf but that is what I am looking for, not another platonic female friend. So I will strike up a conversation with a girl to get to know her. If we have some chemistry and it seems like have common interests and get along well I will get her number somehow and try to hang out with her a couple of times. If that goes well then I either start dropping hints that I like her or just straight up ask her out. This is where everything always falls apart, they either 'friend zone' me or cut off all contact with me.
My most recent rejection just completely boggles my mind. I started talking to this girl on facebook who went to my high school who I didn't really know well back then. It turns out we had more in common than I could imagine, our personalities, interests, favorite bands, and career goals seemed like a perfect match, and on top of that she thought I was really funny. I thought it was in the bag. So after the first time we hung out at a concert I asked her out and she said she wasn't ready for another relationship yet. So I let it at that and figured she would come around since we seemed so compatible. So we still saw each other at school and hung out and talked. About a month later I inadvertently found out that she had been seeing someone the whole time and lied to me. And to make things worse I know who this guy is and he is a total douche. There is no way he is good enough for her. I haven't said anything about it and she always refers this guy as her 'friend' and doesn't really talk about him much, but I know they are dating.
So back to my question, there must be something wrong with me if I can't even make it work out with a girl who might as well be the female version of myself. I can't blame women for my problems because I am the common denominator in all these situations. And if you were wondering my age, I will be 22 in a couple of months.
My most recent rejection just completely boggles my mind. I started talking to this girl on facebook who went to my high school who I didn't really know well back then. It turns out we had more in common than I could imagine, our personalities, interests, favorite bands, and career goals seemed like a perfect match, and on top of that she thought I was really funny. I thought it was in the bag. So after the first time we hung out at a concert I asked her out and she said she wasn't ready for another relationship yet. So I let it at that and figured she would come around since we seemed so compatible. So we still saw each other at school and hung out and talked. About a month later I inadvertently found out that she had been seeing someone the whole time and lied to me. And to make things worse I know who this guy is and he is a total douche. There is no way he is good enough for her. I haven't said anything about it and she always refers this guy as her 'friend' and doesn't really talk about him much, but I know they are dating.
So back to my question, there must be something wrong with me if I can't even make it work out with a girl who might as well be the female version of myself. I can't blame women for my problems because I am the common denominator in all these situations. And if you were wondering my age, I will be 22 in a couple of months.