Joan of Darkness
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We've dated for almost a year, and he never really mentions her. From what I know about their relationship, she dumped him to be with another man. He wasn't too upset over what she did, but more upset about how she did it. Evidently, she just threw him to the side like he was nothing.
Anyway, he brought her up and starting talkint to me about something that she did and I don't know what to think of it. Is it "normal" for a guy to tlak about this sort of thing with his girlfriend.
Basically, they no longer talk. But, she sometimes "sends" him messages through his mother. The other night he was telling me how he just received a message (E-Mail or Text) from his Ex. So, out of no where she messaged him to tell him that she was now with a man that she felt like she would be spending the rest of her life with. He told me that he called his sister to talk to her about how that Ex will not go away etc, and that is when he learned that his Ex really isn't dating anyone currently and has been dumped recently. He also told me that his Ex is now about 300lbs and that is the type of weight he can't do anything with.
I got jealous about all of that, but I didn't want it to show. He was telling me how he could play the game that she is playing and let her know that he is in a great relationship himself. But, he didn't want to do that. He wants to ignore her, and hope that she moves on. I chimed in by telling him that the best thing for him to do is ignore her because if he responds rather it be negative or positive she will feed off of that and not go away. I also told him that if she was truly dumped recently, then it sounds like that she is trying to open a door with my BF and use him to fill an emotional void. I told my BF that that makes her a bad person.
He concluded that his Ex is a "hater", and that was the end of our conversation.
It really felt "odd" to be having a discussion like that with my BF
Anyway, he brought her up and starting talkint to me about something that she did and I don't know what to think of it. Is it "normal" for a guy to tlak about this sort of thing with his girlfriend.
Basically, they no longer talk. But, she sometimes "sends" him messages through his mother. The other night he was telling me how he just received a message (E-Mail or Text) from his Ex. So, out of no where she messaged him to tell him that she was now with a man that she felt like she would be spending the rest of her life with. He told me that he called his sister to talk to her about how that Ex will not go away etc, and that is when he learned that his Ex really isn't dating anyone currently and has been dumped recently. He also told me that his Ex is now about 300lbs and that is the type of weight he can't do anything with.
I got jealous about all of that, but I didn't want it to show. He was telling me how he could play the game that she is playing and let her know that he is in a great relationship himself. But, he didn't want to do that. He wants to ignore her, and hope that she moves on. I chimed in by telling him that the best thing for him to do is ignore her because if he responds rather it be negative or positive she will feed off of that and not go away. I also told him that if she was truly dumped recently, then it sounds like that she is trying to open a door with my BF and use him to fill an emotional void. I told my BF that that makes her a bad person.
He concluded that his Ex is a "hater", and that was the end of our conversation.
It really felt "odd" to be having a discussion like that with my BF