My fiance has taken the long route in school, changing his major until he found what he loves. He will more than likely be in his late 20's by the time he graduates, he is 21. My parents would prefer that we be out of college by the time we get married, however it is my fiance and I that will be paying for the wedding, which will not be for at least 2 years.
I grew up as an only child with parents who loved their jobs. I was not born until my mother was in her mid 30's and my father his 40's. While I appreciate how hard they work and the wonderful job they did raising me, our family wasn't the traditional family. I want to be a traditional mother figure to my children. I NEVER want to miss the big game or recital because my work carries me out of town or I am too busy. I have always wanted to start a family at a younger age, 25-28, and I would like to be well settled into my marriage first.
If I wait until my fiance has graduated I feel as though I will be living my mother's dream and not mine. I recently found out that I was more of an after thought than her desire for children. My mother and I are really close, she just doesn't like small children too much. I on the other hand LOVE them.
So now that you know my desires for a traditional family and why, do you think I should wait more than the two years I had planned to get married. My mother loves my fiance and it would not cause a rift for us to be married but I know what her wishes are. My fiance would marry me now if I agreed to it. So what do you think? Should I wait for my fiance to finish college?
I grew up as an only child with parents who loved their jobs. I was not born until my mother was in her mid 30's and my father his 40's. While I appreciate how hard they work and the wonderful job they did raising me, our family wasn't the traditional family. I want to be a traditional mother figure to my children. I NEVER want to miss the big game or recital because my work carries me out of town or I am too busy. I have always wanted to start a family at a younger age, 25-28, and I would like to be well settled into my marriage first.
If I wait until my fiance has graduated I feel as though I will be living my mother's dream and not mine. I recently found out that I was more of an after thought than her desire for children. My mother and I are really close, she just doesn't like small children too much. I on the other hand LOVE them.
So now that you know my desires for a traditional family and why, do you think I should wait more than the two years I had planned to get married. My mother loves my fiance and it would not cause a rift for us to be married but I know what her wishes are. My fiance would marry me now if I agreed to it. So what do you think? Should I wait for my fiance to finish college?