Is he lying about chatting with another girl?
So, my fiancee came for a visit a while ago, about past 11 in the night this girl he used to go to high school texted him, the message looked like they had been chatting during the day. When I asked him if they had been chatting during the day, he said no they were not, but I keep wondering why the message looked like they were chatting and she was just replying!! He has lied and kept secrets from me about another woman before I gave him a chance to prove himself. I told him to prove to me that he wasn't chatting with her during the day, its been 3 weeks now and nothing, when I ask him he says he keeps forgetting. What should I do, I don't want to marry a compulsive liar, if I find out he was lying I will leave. The thing is, how do I find out?? I'm so tired of being worried all the time. I confronted him and told him that I want his phone records, and he told me that he doesn't agree, "after I give you my phone records and than what??" is what he asks me, than he continues to ask me "so I have to prove everything I do, report everyone that I call or text?" WTF!!!!! How else am I supposed to trust him again, I cant just trust him when he says something, he proved that to me along time ago. "Than he said that if thats the case than I can't continue to be friends with my male friends, BUT the thing is I never lied to him about anything, My life has been an open book!!! After he asked me those stinking questions it proved to me that he hasn't realized the pain he has caused me, he doesn't realize the damage he has done. And I am sick of his sh..!! I told him if he doesn't get me the damn records he can kiss our relationship goodbye!! He said he would get the records and I could go with him! I'm so annoyed, I don't even care anymore. I just want him to leave me alone!! My question is how do I move past this now, everything is so damn cloudy! Where do I begin? I'm very confused!
So, my fiancee came for a visit a while ago, about past 11 in the night this girl he used to go to high school texted him, the message looked like they had been chatting during the day. When I asked him if they had been chatting during the day, he said no they were not, but I keep wondering why the message looked like they were chatting and she was just replying!! He has lied and kept secrets from me about another woman before I gave him a chance to prove himself. I told him to prove to me that he wasn't chatting with her during the day, its been 3 weeks now and nothing, when I ask him he says he keeps forgetting. What should I do, I don't want to marry a compulsive liar, if I find out he was lying I will leave. The thing is, how do I find out?? I'm so tired of being worried all the time. I confronted him and told him that I want his phone records, and he told me that he doesn't agree, "after I give you my phone records and than what??" is what he asks me, than he continues to ask me "so I have to prove everything I do, report everyone that I call or text?" WTF!!!!! How else am I supposed to trust him again, I cant just trust him when he says something, he proved that to me along time ago. "Than he said that if thats the case than I can't continue to be friends with my male friends, BUT the thing is I never lied to him about anything, My life has been an open book!!! After he asked me those stinking questions it proved to me that he hasn't realized the pain he has caused me, he doesn't realize the damage he has done. And I am sick of his sh..!! I told him if he doesn't get me the damn records he can kiss our relationship goodbye!! He said he would get the records and I could go with him! I'm so annoyed, I don't even care anymore. I just want him to leave me alone!! My question is how do I move past this now, everything is so damn cloudy! Where do I begin? I'm very confused!