Is an intimate online relationship a form of cheating?

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My husband was recently contacted by a woman he knew in college. She lives several states away, and they chat online and occasionally on the phone. They talked a lot, about everything, including his hopes and dreams in life. She has sent him several gifts, as well as some to me and our kids. Her and I started talking, mostly because I wanted to keep an eye on her. After about 6 months I started to question her feelings. She never wanted to talk to me about my relationship with my husband, or to hear about it. One day I saw an email from her to him saying that she was jealous of me and our relationship. It made me angry, but she is recently divorced and I just assumed she meant jealous of the happy marriage, not me specifically. A couple days later was my husbands birthday, she sent him a good morning happy birthday email, in it she said how she wished she was with him to make him coffee and bring it to him in bed, to lie down with him and stroke his arms and hold him close, that their scents would mingle and then they would make love in that sleepy slumber state. Obviously this sent me over the edge and I said I was done with her. He assured me that nothing like that had been said before, or would be tolerated again. He assured me I was the only one he wanted, and I do beleive him. I told him that I would not choose his friends and he should do what he wanted, but I have a HUGE problem with the fact that he wants to badly for her to stay in his life. To me this is not someone you keep talking to,she has no respect for our marriage and has ulterior motives, to me you cut that person off and move on. I am just trying to figure out if it's just me that thinks that, asking my friends doesnt really work because they automatically take my side. What do you think, is it wrong of him to keep talking to her after this?