Is a lack of intimacy normal with your spouse or signifigant other after having a baby?

EllenMay

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There's no going back I'm afraid - a baby is for life - 20 years - not just for Christmas. Your partner remember is also having to adjust to a new lifestyle, and not only that, seeing you as a different person. Your body has changed - he has to get used to that as well. In fact you are no longer the couple you once were altogether, so the idea of going back to how you were is, I'm afraid, out of the question.

The best you can do is to in fact adjust your currentl lifestyles to accommodate your new baby, and of course for you to try to make yourself appear to your partner as a woman, and not as a mommy. You are a woman with needs and you need to make this clear to him - at the moment he may even be too afraid to come near you, in awe of the whole birth process, in case he hurts you or so on. Reassure him and remind him big time that you are a woman, as well as a mother.
 
Our son is now seven months old. I thought that by now the intimacy would be back in my marriage. Instead it feels like all the stress, and responsibility of a new baby has taken it's toll on my marriage. I feel extremely lonely in my new role as a stay at home mommy. I want things to change but my idea of change is for things to go back the way they where before we had a baby. Is this unrealistic of me? Anyone who has gone through or is going through a similar situation I'd appreciate your insight and how you deal with it.
We know we could not afford another baby. They are very expensive. I have had the depo provera injections faithfully since after my sons birth to assure that I will not become pregnant again. We are responsible in our family planning.
 
Well your very fertile right now....it's possible he's scared of getting you pregnant again....it's possible. Alot of babies happen right after birth of a child.
 
Many husbands would be feeling unhappy if seven months had gone by and things hadn't gotten back to normal. However I have known a couple of guys totally turned off by the sight of their lady breastfeeding the baby. Everybody is different. I know this well because my specific taste in women would only be shared by perhaps 1% of guys on this site, even though the type of woman is very common in America and the UK
 
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