is 17 to young for wanting to have sex with there boyfriend?

[x o x ~ ' Sarah ' ~ x o]

I’ve never had sex before, I was raped (last year.) we went out about 2 moths after words I was still funny we where friends before we started going out, and he use to look after me and stuff because of everything. I felt scary to sleep, and when I did I spent most of the night crying or having nightmares about it. So it’s been about 8 months now, where in a long Distance relation ship, and I really truly do love him, I care about him I did when he got into the car accident and after words and I get worried if his sick or anything. I’m 17 his one year younger. And I was wondering, because his coming down in June to visits me is it weird to want to have sex with him? Well okay if said something about it to him. I mean I’m 17, I’ve never had sex, its came across my mind a few times. But I’ve been trying not to think about it. I thought it probably would be one of the better ways to show him I love him, besides cooking because I can’t cook, I’d rather not burn down my house... so really is that a good idea? I mean, I’ll make sure where using a condom… and I’ll get myself check out… like ur to after your done having sex… I mean I enjoy really anything I get to do with him because he isn’t here, and when he isn’t I miss him a lot. And I can’t wait for June caz then I get to drag him around every where’s and be all couplely with him and hold hands and everything I’ve been missing. I mean I play games with him online, and I talk on the phone for hours on end, like from 7-4 in the morning… till we both fall asleep on the phone. I do love him, I just don’t want to seem like a slut and ask if he wants to have sex with me… so uhm... Would it be weird… for me to do that? (Don’t go on the god thing) I’m just asking for opinions on it… I just don’t want to do something, I don’t want either of us to get hurt because of a silly choose we made... so really… would that be a bad thing if we had sex?

p.s. I know he cares about me because when I was raped he’d also talk to me, till I went to bed. He helped me stop cutting my wrist and he looked after me when I was really upset about random stuff, and he also told my dad off when he hit me with the belt for listening to a song… so ya. He does care about me, and he worries about me as much as I worry about him….
Lol no i know i am... ^^ im not silly... i know sex is for throws that truley love one another.. one of my mom's friendes kids (shes only 12) she had sex wiht a guy. they claimed they love one another... now her mom wants to make them marry or something because she is now having baby...
hislittleprincess: thanks.. but he wasnt.. they couldnt find him.. i think the cops really gave up on looking for him... really...

 

[hislittleprincess]

first of all.
congratulations on still having your virginity.
most girls throw theirs away at 12 now a days.

i cannot tell you what to do.
you have to follow your heart.
you know what your ready for.
but lemme juss tell you this. sex isnt something you give a man to make him "happy' or just to do wit him. trust me please, i have learned this from my own life.
sex [making love] as it should be. is a bond between two people who share an intimate love and passion for each other unconditionally. ive had sex with my share of partners. and when i found my fiance, i realized the difference immedietly. it is so much more beautiful and meaningful when its done out of love & your bodys really connect with each other because of REAL love & commitment to each other.

with that being said. if your going to do it. protect yourself.
condoms, birth control. etc.
std's & pregnancys are REAL.
no1 can avoid them.

just enjoy your life . your young. enjoy. but be careful & think wisely.

do you want this boy to be the permanant reminder of your lost virginity?
do you love him?
does he love you?
can you see yourself marrying him?

p.s - im sorry for what happened to you. hope the bastards in jail.

 

[Karen]

Opinions....well I was 17 when I first had sex....but then I regretted it. Having sex with someone is actually NOT a good way to show you love someone. You should only have sex AFTER several things....1) you and he have had several discussions about it. If you aren't mature enough to talk to him responsibly about it...then you aren't mature enough to handle the act. 2) yes you get birth control of your choice after discussion. 3) You both already know the other person loves you and you each have shown your love in other ways.....caring, doing small things (does not have to be cooking), etc. 4) You both trust each other (sounds like you might have this one down). and the last 5) that you are secure (emotionally, mentally, and financiall) enough to handle a pregnacy and raising a child as no birth control is 100% safe.

 

[Charger]

I would advise waiting. You're very young, although it doesn't seem that way to you. Look at Jamie Lynn Spears and Bristol Palin. They were 17 and sex completely altered their lives. I'd wait if I were you.

 

[kye_089]

ok Psychological point view it is a lot to do with your hormones making you think that you want it. but i do not have much to say i let my hormones over run my thoughts. umm let me see here it is your choice but if i were you i would wait due to your past it might bring back memories that you do not want to recall.