Incessant whining...hellllp?

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Icessant whining...hellllllp!?
We really need some advice! One of our 8mo old b/b twins, has developed a new habit...whining incessantly all through meals. Or at least from beginning to mid-way through. He starts when we pick him up & put him in his high chair, conitnues on as we put on his bib, and throughout many bites of food,. Just constant whine, whine, whine., despite many reassurances and happy voices about yummy dinner/lunch/breakfast. He stops for a bit if I try to be entertaining, like singing Old MacDonald while I feed the twins, but that's not realistic to be able to do this EVERY time. What about in public? I'd be mortified to sing! LOL
I've read somewhere that it takes a baby a while to make the new connection between spoon feeding and eating, whereas before his only connection to the food was the breast. It almost seems that as I pick him up at mealtimes, he's dejected or something because I'm not bringing him to breast, but putting him into his chair instead. I still
breastfeed them both but obviuosly it's only in between solid feedings now...they are breastfed upon waking, again just before late morning naps, after lunch, and finally after dinner/before bedtime. And of course if they wake in the night, which doesn't happen at all anymore unless they have a cold or are generally not feeling well.
My other twin, has no problems at all during feeding. Well, unless you count the dogs being a huge, funny distraction to him! :)

Any advice on how to get him to knock off the whining. It's sooo annoying, and frustrating, and we don't want him to end up associating mealtimes as an unpleasant time. Especially given that this is a time for exploring new foods.
And, BTW, this is new behavior all around. He's been fine at all meals from the time they started on solids at around 6mos. This all started around 2 weeks ago or so. He also gets whiney when he first sees me in the morning, or if I'm taking some "mommy time" upstairs, or any time he's away from me
for a short while.
He does not do his whining routine unless it's me or Daddy feeding him. If Grandma feeds him, he's just fine. What's THAT about?
Could this be the beginningof a "spoiled" baby? If so, we need to nip this in the bud now, right? Before it gets increasingly worse. Or is this just a phase? ow I'm worried that we having picked the twins up every time they've cried pretty much since birth, that was a mistake and this is the result...could this be? But on the other hand, there's a BIG difference between crying and this whining thing he does. Ignoring him when he whines is pretty much impossible, he's relentless!
Please help! I feel like we'll go nuts if this keeps up forever.
 
I highly recommend the book Love and Logic Magic: The Early Childhood Years by Jim Fay. It is PHENOMINAL about behavior like whining. SOOOOO many people fall to one extreme or another-----you have to CONTROL THAT CHILD, or OH JUST LOVE HIM THROUGH IT.........well this book teaches you (well, it's taught me and thousands others) how to balance love and logic. It sounds like you're sooooooo frustrated right now. go to their website and order the book right away, i'm not kidding when i tell you it was probably the very best $15-ish dollar investment we've made our whole life :) http://www.loveandlogic.com/
Big HUGS one momma to another!
 
Does he have a tooth trying to come in?
I know my grandson likes to put on airs for his mommy when she's home. She works full time. But after she is out the door, he's fine. When she's home she can not get out of his sight. He's 23 months and he has been doing this for ever! He is pretty much a growth on her hip cause she would rather tote him then listen to him whine and get under foot when she is trying to cook or clean.
Some babies just like to play the parents!
 
Maybe he's just trying to communicate. Eight months old is very young for the kind of manipulation that you are describing. Is it possible that you're misinterpreting his communication? Because his twin doesn't do it, it tells me that it's a personality difference. Try to honor that, and modify gently. I like Love and Logic, that's a good suggestion.

also, let him nurse before eating. At that age, he can (and should) still get most of his calories from breastmilk, and solid foods are just for practice. Good luck!
 
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