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I have been having this internal struggle about whether or not to confront my mother in law. My fiance comes from a family of five kids..he has two sisters and two brothers . One sister has three children while th other has two. Recently I have noticed that his mother really pays allot more attention to the sister with three children's kids. If we are there visiting and I tell her about a milestone that my child had made without fail she brings up one of his sisters kids, like made a statement that my daughter had really gotten tall and thin. Her reply, "you should see blah blah" she is just a peanut. And one time I was talking about my baby and how he walked and immediatley she brought up that sisters baby and replys " you should see the way blablah walks it is so cute". And then we were at his nephews birthday party with tons of family members his grandma, sister, brother, and grandma..and many others...I wanted him to see something so we told them we would be right back. When came back she is like god you left daughter with out any help for her to bowl. I mean seriously non of you could help her...and they were holding his sisters kids all night. And then the older boys were acting up and I overheard his mother and grandmother speaking, mother is like wow the boys are way wound up, and the grandmother is like well I think it is "son" that is starting it all...and my son was being good setting with the boys..in matter of fact the boys were being good. Then his mother was watching my son play and walk around..and she is like he is sure a happy little guy...and I was super happy..Had she said something nice finally?....then she said 'remember when he was a baby all he would do is wine and cry." Sigh. She doesn't call to talk to kids, she doesn't come over to visit or ask how the kids are , his dad always calls my son a alien because his forhead is larger. I
Sometimes I feel as if i'm exaggerating....what do you think? How do you speak with someone about this without offending them..I just isn't fair to my kids to have them picked apart .
I have been having this internal struggle about whether or not to confront my mother in law. My fiance comes from a family of five kids..he has two sisters and two brothers . One sister has three children while th other has two. Recently I have noticed that his mother really pays allot more attention to the sister with three children's kids. If we are there visiting and I tell her about a milestone that my child had made without fail she brings up one of his sisters kids, like made a statement that my daughter had really gotten tall and thin. Her reply, "you should see blah blah" she is just a peanut. And one time I was talking about my baby and how he walked and immediatley she brought up that sisters baby and replys " you should see the way blablah walks it is so cute". And then we were at his nephews birthday party with tons of family members his grandma, sister, brother, and grandma..and many others...I wanted him to see something so we told them we would be right back. When came back she is like god you left daughter with out any help for her to bowl. I mean seriously non of you could help her...and they were holding his sisters kids all night. And then the older boys were acting up and I overheard his mother and grandmother speaking, mother is like wow the boys are way wound up, and the grandmother is like well I think it is "son" that is starting it all...and my son was being good setting with the boys..in matter of fact the boys were being good. Then his mother was watching my son play and walk around..and she is like he is sure a happy little guy...and I was super happy..Had she said something nice finally?....then she said 'remember when he was a baby all he would do is wine and cry." Sigh. She doesn't call to talk to kids, she doesn't come over to visit or ask how the kids are , his dad always calls my son a alien because his forhead is larger. I
Sometimes I feel as if i'm exaggerating....what do you think? How do you speak with someone about this without offending them..I just isn't fair to my kids to have them picked apart .