imported_Mrs. Atkinson
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Sorry for the length of this, I just want to make sure everyone understands why I feel the way I do--
My in-laws are about drive me insane. My husband's mom is not all there (not old, she just did too many drugs) and his dad is attention deprived because his mom is such a nutcase. Anyway, in January of this year I had an ectopic pregnancy and had to have emergency surgery and one of my tubes removed. I was devastated and did not handle the loss well. Two days after my surgery his mom sent numerous text messages to me complaining of how badly her back hurt, it's the worst pain she's ever felt, she needs emergency surgery etc. Finally I replied and explained that I was not feeling well still and asked if we could please discuss her problems at a later date. She replied back that she "just wanted to let me know was going on with her." I could not believe how selfish she was being. (A week after this my husband's sister insisted on going to the dr. with her and found out she was lying and there was NOTHING wrong with her.) Not a single person in his family (they all live within 10 miles of us) bothered to ask me how I was doing. A week later his mom felt it was necessary to pull out a scrapbook of my husband's sisters wedding where she was 6 months pregnant. His mother talked and talked about how hard it was to find a dress, she was so big etc. I left in tears and she never said a word. No apology, nothing. In March there was a HUGE fight between my husband, me and his parents because they were trying to control our wedding (that WE paid for) and they said some disrespectful things to my mom. I had a miscarriage in April, just two weeks before our wedding and that too went unacknowledged by his family. It really hurt that these people are supposed to be my family, yet when something like this happens they blow me off. The day of our wedding his mom barged into the house I was getting dressed in and started to yell at me because it was hot outside and no one was allowed in the other house (they were trying to set up for the reception) when she could have very easily waited in her car. No one from my husbands side was allowed to see me before the wedding because his sister took it upon herself to send out my bridal portraits. Anyway, she said she was going in the house anyway and there was nothing I could do to stop her. During the reception almost all of the guests he invited stayed outside (including his mom who earlier couldn't bear to be in the heat) the entire time--chain smoking. I am allergic to smoke, my photographer was 28 weeks pregnant with twins and one of my bridesmaids was 20 weeks pregnant, not to mention it is so inconsiderate. The houses are right next to each other and are only separated by a courtyard. They were asked by the owner of the house to quit smoking 4 times before I had to go out there and say something. My husband told them in March how hurt I was at the things they have said/done to me this year and they just don't care. I know I can't change them, but things are only getting worse. They come over to our apartment complex without our knowledge and use our pool, call my husband several times a day (every single day).
Sorry this was so long, there is much more that has happened but these are the main things. It is causing stress in my marriage and my husband is caught in the middle. We are even considering moving because we can't deal with them calling/ texting 24/7 and being so needy in general. However, I do not want to just ignore this because clearly it is not getting any better.
Thank you everyone =)
It was not a "lame excuse". There was no smoking allowed at the facility, per the owners. And while it was technically outside, it was a closed off space without sufficient ventilation.
Julia H.-- Go to hell. I hope you never have to go through the pain and hurt of losing a child, much less two.
My in-laws are about drive me insane. My husband's mom is not all there (not old, she just did too many drugs) and his dad is attention deprived because his mom is such a nutcase. Anyway, in January of this year I had an ectopic pregnancy and had to have emergency surgery and one of my tubes removed. I was devastated and did not handle the loss well. Two days after my surgery his mom sent numerous text messages to me complaining of how badly her back hurt, it's the worst pain she's ever felt, she needs emergency surgery etc. Finally I replied and explained that I was not feeling well still and asked if we could please discuss her problems at a later date. She replied back that she "just wanted to let me know was going on with her." I could not believe how selfish she was being. (A week after this my husband's sister insisted on going to the dr. with her and found out she was lying and there was NOTHING wrong with her.) Not a single person in his family (they all live within 10 miles of us) bothered to ask me how I was doing. A week later his mom felt it was necessary to pull out a scrapbook of my husband's sisters wedding where she was 6 months pregnant. His mother talked and talked about how hard it was to find a dress, she was so big etc. I left in tears and she never said a word. No apology, nothing. In March there was a HUGE fight between my husband, me and his parents because they were trying to control our wedding (that WE paid for) and they said some disrespectful things to my mom. I had a miscarriage in April, just two weeks before our wedding and that too went unacknowledged by his family. It really hurt that these people are supposed to be my family, yet when something like this happens they blow me off. The day of our wedding his mom barged into the house I was getting dressed in and started to yell at me because it was hot outside and no one was allowed in the other house (they were trying to set up for the reception) when she could have very easily waited in her car. No one from my husbands side was allowed to see me before the wedding because his sister took it upon herself to send out my bridal portraits. Anyway, she said she was going in the house anyway and there was nothing I could do to stop her. During the reception almost all of the guests he invited stayed outside (including his mom who earlier couldn't bear to be in the heat) the entire time--chain smoking. I am allergic to smoke, my photographer was 28 weeks pregnant with twins and one of my bridesmaids was 20 weeks pregnant, not to mention it is so inconsiderate. The houses are right next to each other and are only separated by a courtyard. They were asked by the owner of the house to quit smoking 4 times before I had to go out there and say something. My husband told them in March how hurt I was at the things they have said/done to me this year and they just don't care. I know I can't change them, but things are only getting worse. They come over to our apartment complex without our knowledge and use our pool, call my husband several times a day (every single day).
Sorry this was so long, there is much more that has happened but these are the main things. It is causing stress in my marriage and my husband is caught in the middle. We are even considering moving because we can't deal with them calling/ texting 24/7 and being so needy in general. However, I do not want to just ignore this because clearly it is not getting any better.
Thank you everyone =)
It was not a "lame excuse". There was no smoking allowed at the facility, per the owners. And while it was technically outside, it was a closed off space without sufficient ventilation.
Julia H.-- Go to hell. I hope you never have to go through the pain and hurt of losing a child, much less two.