My GF and I are almost about to share 2 years of being together and things have been great since we've first meant but ever since we've moved in, ive been slightly stressed. We moved back in March so going on almost 5 months. We got a three bedroom double wide house for $600. I think we both agree that we jumped the gun but she needed to get away from home (she's 19) and I needed to start moving out of my parents place (I'm 22). Last month our best friend is renting one of the bedrooms and helping us out with rent. But back to the subject, Im growing concerns about her and really need some suggestions. I feel like our place is growing to a dump most of the time as we both can not find a happy middle in who cleans what. I feel like I'm the one who is always picking up after her and trying to straighten most stuff in the house. Her habits with throwing stuff around the room, let it be trash, wrappers, clothes, it just gets old. I'll admit i'm human and sometimes throw stuff aside but i'm constantly picking it back up and in the trashcan.
We can't find a happy middle with who does laundry or who cleans the cat litter box. There was a week in particular where i let the litterbox for our russian blue cat go and never bothered to clean it. It was almost a week and half till it was tended too. Mold was growing on it and the computer room smelled with litter. Also dishes tend to not get done when I let them be to see if they'll be touched. But what really urks me is that three times out of the 5 months we've been together, she's cleaned the house, vacuumed, dusted, etc. And she's done a really damn good job but with me constantly being on my toes with work i have very little time to do that much adding on to what i already have to do around the house.
Her eating habits and sleeping habits have also gotten me mixed up on who I'm really dating. She works overnight at our local mcdonalds as a swing manager to pay the bills. She'll leave at 5 or 8 at night and sometimes won't come home till 5 or 6 in the morning. I honestly don't know how she does it but she's doing her best with the job. But working there, she's eaten alot of their food and has gained almost 40 pounds or so. With working the insane night shifts, she's not only dealing with stress of the fast food business but getting home and staying up till like 8 in the morning and then going to bed. Ive been trying to convince her to get another job, something with better hours and less stress, but i'm afraid shes went past the whole having a job for money part and is wrapped up with the job title of being a manager. She can do better than this.
Added with the extra weight she's carrying, she's finding it hard to accept her body and has accepted there's nothing to do about it. Her hygiene is affected, she strives to never put makeup on or take showers every day. Even her panties that i see in the wash are covered in monthly stains (if you know what i mean) and she continues to wear them. I'm the kind of guy that try's to take a shower every day, if not I'll take one the next. I do have a problem of not shaving everyday but i keep up with my hygiene, I wear a mist of cologne, keep my clothes clean, always comb my hair. It urks me to have my gf keep slipping down on appearance when she use to be thin, skin tanned, smelled good, take the time to brush her hair everyday. I can remember the dates we use to go on, god she was beautiful.
Also her money spending habits are becoming quite huge. She has a bank credit card and a capital one. She's already maxed them out with buying things for her car (she's tricking it out) and with skimping out on working alot at mcdonalds, she's finding it hard to pay the bills. I had to pay a $100 out of my own wallet to pay for rent. When we got the place, we agreed the bills would be split down the middle with no exceptions. Now i'm very tight with my money and am always on my expenses, checks, etc. I make sure all the bills are paid on time, my credit history is great and people always wonder how i can manage money the way I do. But with her, she spends and wants, always has a reason to buy it, but this is coming from the same person who will not carry a purse or bag, never keep her credit cards or license in a safe place, just will throw them around at home and sometimes can't find them. God it urks me so much to find a credit card just laying around the house and she's looking for it. I try to tell her to carry a purse again like she use too or put her cards on her desk at home, but she never seems to listen.
So with all this and some more i won't talk about, I'm becoming aggravated and whenever I'm out in town and see another couple walk by, I want us to be like that. I lover her so much and still want to be with her but I'm starting to question if this is real love or if i'm holding on to what was in the past and not now anymore. Idk, i'm so confused. Thanks for reading this long post if you've made it through to
We can't find a happy middle with who does laundry or who cleans the cat litter box. There was a week in particular where i let the litterbox for our russian blue cat go and never bothered to clean it. It was almost a week and half till it was tended too. Mold was growing on it and the computer room smelled with litter. Also dishes tend to not get done when I let them be to see if they'll be touched. But what really urks me is that three times out of the 5 months we've been together, she's cleaned the house, vacuumed, dusted, etc. And she's done a really damn good job but with me constantly being on my toes with work i have very little time to do that much adding on to what i already have to do around the house.
Her eating habits and sleeping habits have also gotten me mixed up on who I'm really dating. She works overnight at our local mcdonalds as a swing manager to pay the bills. She'll leave at 5 or 8 at night and sometimes won't come home till 5 or 6 in the morning. I honestly don't know how she does it but she's doing her best with the job. But working there, she's eaten alot of their food and has gained almost 40 pounds or so. With working the insane night shifts, she's not only dealing with stress of the fast food business but getting home and staying up till like 8 in the morning and then going to bed. Ive been trying to convince her to get another job, something with better hours and less stress, but i'm afraid shes went past the whole having a job for money part and is wrapped up with the job title of being a manager. She can do better than this.
Added with the extra weight she's carrying, she's finding it hard to accept her body and has accepted there's nothing to do about it. Her hygiene is affected, she strives to never put makeup on or take showers every day. Even her panties that i see in the wash are covered in monthly stains (if you know what i mean) and she continues to wear them. I'm the kind of guy that try's to take a shower every day, if not I'll take one the next. I do have a problem of not shaving everyday but i keep up with my hygiene, I wear a mist of cologne, keep my clothes clean, always comb my hair. It urks me to have my gf keep slipping down on appearance when she use to be thin, skin tanned, smelled good, take the time to brush her hair everyday. I can remember the dates we use to go on, god she was beautiful.
Also her money spending habits are becoming quite huge. She has a bank credit card and a capital one. She's already maxed them out with buying things for her car (she's tricking it out) and with skimping out on working alot at mcdonalds, she's finding it hard to pay the bills. I had to pay a $100 out of my own wallet to pay for rent. When we got the place, we agreed the bills would be split down the middle with no exceptions. Now i'm very tight with my money and am always on my expenses, checks, etc. I make sure all the bills are paid on time, my credit history is great and people always wonder how i can manage money the way I do. But with her, she spends and wants, always has a reason to buy it, but this is coming from the same person who will not carry a purse or bag, never keep her credit cards or license in a safe place, just will throw them around at home and sometimes can't find them. God it urks me so much to find a credit card just laying around the house and she's looking for it. I try to tell her to carry a purse again like she use too or put her cards on her desk at home, but she never seems to listen.
So with all this and some more i won't talk about, I'm becoming aggravated and whenever I'm out in town and see another couple walk by, I want us to be like that. I lover her so much and still want to be with her but I'm starting to question if this is real love or if i'm holding on to what was in the past and not now anymore. Idk, i'm so confused. Thanks for reading this long post if you've made it through to