In an interracial relationship...is it healthy to discuss racism or issues...

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...dealing with race? I'm currently in an interracial relationship (boyfriend is white..i'm black) and I would love to start having discussions about race and society but I don't know how to go about it. We talk about everything else but that. We even talked about having a child together but never a conversation about the whole race thing. I think it will bring us even closer together.
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i;M SORRY BUT IF YOU CAN'T TALK ABOUT RACE OR RELIGION THEN YOU DON'T HAVE MUCH OF A RELATIONSHIP

you should def bring it up one day. you should be able to speak about anything w/ ur partnr as long as u arent insulting him
 
I'm Black and I also have a White boyfriend. We discuss race and religion alot. Just bring it up one day. I don't know me and my man talk about everything. I think you should talk about it if you're gonna have a child.

It doens't dominate our relationship. It's not a big issue for us. And I know that I love him and that he loves me.
 
I think it would be healthy and also good to hear each other's side on the topic.
 
Definitely healthy! Just don't call him honky. Na, I'm just playing.

The only way to spark the conversation is just sit down and do it. Real simple. I think its warranted since you have discussed having a child.

Good luck!
 
I'm married to a Korean girl. We talk about it from time to time and it's normal and no biggie. That being said I also dated a Black American girl once and the was awkward. All she wanted to do was yap about racism ad nauseum. I'm white Canadian by the way. She didn't seem to grasp that my people saved slaves and that I don't care to bicker about her countries internal unsolvable problems. I mean, we were living in China at the time for god's sake! So, I guess I think it's different between different races. Blacks and whites in the US are just too at eachothers throats to have rational conversations and there are much more deep seated rivalries and convictions about each others strong and weak points. Anyway, in the end talking about racism perpetuates racism. I think it's the least necessary thing to discuss and the most likely thing to cause problems between you. Me and my wife are in a very differnt situation I think.Just my 2 cents.
 
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