I'm seeing a married man and need some serious direction. Any advice?

Deon Banks

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I'm a babysitter, it's my one and only job and recently it's gotten very complicated for me. Two months ago I started watching a four year old boy by the name of Jamie. I was hired by his mother, an architect and a friend of my aunts. Even though she was known within the family I had never actually met her or her son. The mom's schedule was very hectic and that left me watching Jamie 6 days a week 6:00am to 7:00-8:00pm. I was told that his father was on business in Japan at the time and that he wouldn't be due back for a couple more months.

Jamie's father arrived sooner than expected. He was a very handsome, gentlemanly man. He was also very stressed and a workaholic just like his wife. I soon learned that his marriage was strained. Him and his wife not only slept in different beds but in different rooms at opposite sides of their house. They only saw each other in the mornings and Jamie's mother had told me before that she doesn't speak to her husband on the phone and that they hadn't been intimate for nearly a year and half. This made me feel bad for Jamie but nothing more.

I started seeing Jamie's father more and more. He was working from home again and his wife was always out of town or in back to back meetings. Whenever I was working he was working as well. He got to be with his son at home but was still constantly doing business at the house. He offered to pick me up from home and drive me to his place to watch Jamie and also take me back home when I was done.

At one point I thought to myself Am I even truly needed here? And so I asked Jamie's parents and they both told be that even though Jamie's father was working from home now he still needed to be watched because his father was constantly working. I was happy that I got that cleared up for my sake and never doubted that they actually needed me again.

One night when he took me home he kissed me. I wasn't expecting it and at first I was a bit startled. I admit maybe I should have been upset but I didn't feel that way at all. I felt so sorry for him and his family. He never sees his wife. He doesn't have a great relationship with his son. I mean he's there but is that enough? I don't think it is. I really feel that they're the definition of a dysfunctional family.

I began having an affair with him and even though I felt bad sometimes, those feelings stopped after a while. Recently things have gotten very complicated. Jamie's father told me he couldn't imagine his life without me in it. His wife was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and Jamie has started calling me mommy. Jamie's mom doesn't know about me and her husband. He wants her to get help, apparently she's not dealing with her health very well right now. He asked me to move in with him and Jamie and for right now he'll just tell her that I'll be a live in nanny. I don't know whether to move in or not. I don't know if I should tell Jamie's mom about him and I while she's in the state she's in. I don't know anything anymore and I can't talk to my family because we're not on good terms with me working so much. Any guidance/opinions/judgments would help, I can take it. I just need someone else to give me their viewpoint.
 
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