I'm kinky. My wife isn't. How do I change?

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UniqueApple

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Since being kinky seems to be in your nature, it'll be hard to ''un-kinkify'' yourself. Perhaps you could do a few kinky things during sex (not too over-the-top) so you both are satisfied? Good luck!
 
How do I become un-kinky?
Elaboration: Married 20 years. Wife "accommodated" me for a long time but ultimately "grew out" of kinky play. I don't want/need it all of the time, but I do want/need it some of the time. But it's a lose-lose if she's only grudgingly participating to placate me. She's not happy and I'm certainly not happy if she's only doing it "out of obligation." So...I need to find a way to let go of my desire for kinky stuff. If you're curious, it's bondage. Nothing wildly out of bounds, but there it is.
 
I think it depends on your level of kink.

Really, if that's what turns you on then there no way to change.

Sexual compatibility is an issue on how long a marriage might last. your best option might be a happy medium. Are there things she's willing to try for you, or even learn about. If not then incompatibility could become a real issue latter on.

You two need to sit down and have an open conversation about this problem.

Sex is something intimate between a couple, and if one or both are not happy, then this can bleed into the rest of your relationship, so you need to find a way for both of you to be happy, or it may not work out at all.
 
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