Im afraid my (new) therapist is not openminded...I have very sensative sexual...

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...issues to discuss? help? do u kno if christians become thrapists. im very upset. i just came home from my first session. shes very nice. but im just afraid its not the quality im looking for. im expected COMPLETE openmindedness to everything and anything. incestuous feeling for example =/ and being gay and alllll the issues that come along with it.

i quit my appointments with my other therapists around july. he was a psycologist. she is a social worker. that could make a big difference =//// he was good but I came to a point where i got stuck and wouldnt talk. (very painful)....im just not sure (actually im POSITIVE) a therapist would not understand/relate/comprehend "gay" issueslike another gay person.

srry for blabbing away. but this is very much a struggle for me. i need therapy. im 15 years old btw. i hope to GOD shes not a christian.

i just dont kno anymore -_-

and ive been through these finding "the right therapist" thing over and over again in my head. im too analytical sometimes =[ ive been two therapist and one session with some other guy.

i dont need any pity but the simple truth is what im going through is painful
 
First off, you need to specify if she is a "psychologist" or "therapist". I would assume, however, that she isn't going to care, because it's her job not to care (or at least not to judge), she will help you work through whatever your going through, even if that means acceptance of who you are. It makes no difference whether she is a Christian or not, because in order to be a psychologist, she must have had 6 yrs of schooling on all the issues, and be able to tackle each one from a professional standpoint. I will note that there are some who are a bit more unorthodox, but you would really have to look for someone like that.
 
I'm sorry, sweetie. I hope you find the right therapist.
Yes, Christians DO become therapists. But believe me, therapists and psychologists receive training so that they be open-minded about all things. The real reason they're there, though, is not to understand everything you're going through; they're there to help YOU understand everything you're going through.
And, at 15 years old, believe me, she's not going to judge you for any unusual sexual urges. Those are normal for 15 year olds. And even more normal for 15 year old boys. And, if you're dealing with the discovery of your homosexuality (IDK if you just realized or have known for a while), then therapists are going to be even more willing to listen; being a gay, 15 year old guy is probably the most confused thing that will ever happen to you.
Part of the reason you're having so much trouble finding a therapist/psychologist/counsellor to talk to might be due to the amount of vulnerability entailed. It's uncomfortable and frightening to give so much trust to a stranger. Try asking the next person you talk with to have some sort of trust-building exercise so that you feel more comfortable; I'm a bit surprised they haven't offered anything like that already.
In the long run, though, if you don't feel like a counsellor is right, then they probably aren't.
Good luck, my dear.
 
I'm sorry, sweetie. I hope you find the right therapist.
Yes, Christians DO become therapists. But believe me, therapists and psychologists receive training so that they be open-minded about all things. The real reason they're there, though, is not to understand everything you're going through; they're there to help YOU understand everything you're going through.
And, at 15 years old, believe me, she's not going to judge you for any unusual sexual urges. Those are normal for 15 year olds. And even more normal for 15 year old boys. And, if you're dealing with the discovery of your homosexuality (IDK if you just realized or have known for a while), then therapists are going to be even more willing to listen; being a gay, 15 year old guy is probably the most confused thing that will ever happen to you.
Part of the reason you're having so much trouble finding a therapist/psychologist/counsellor to talk to might be due to the amount of vulnerability entailed. It's uncomfortable and frightening to give so much trust to a stranger. Try asking the next person you talk with to have some sort of trust-building exercise so that you feel more comfortable; I'm a bit surprised they haven't offered anything like that already.
In the long run, though, if you don't feel like a counsellor is right, then they probably aren't.
Good luck, my dear.
 
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