really confused...? So I am a 17 year old guy in my last year of high school. Since 7th grade I've wanted nothing more than to go to a school dance with a date. I have a lot of girl friends (not girlfriends, there is a difference) and my best friend is actually a girl. Every year the dances come and go and I was never asked or never asked anyone because I felt no one would say yes. So when I reached my Sophomore year I decided this trend needed to end (rhyme not intended), I asked this really cute girl whom I've had a crush on since 6th grade. She said no but I wasn't very upset, I had accomplished my main goal of that dance! Asking someone. Then the next dance comes around and I think that this time I'll be successful! I mean I am a pretty good looking guy with a lot of good traits. I not only write poetry but I also win awards for what I write in state contests. I take girls on pretty good dates. I'm very spontaneous and unique in the way I've asked girls to prom. I treat them with respect and never overstep my boundaries. I am told that what I do is very cute. And it's not like I'm unpopular at school either. I'm the captain of the lacrosse team, head of the book club, and im in the guitar hero and supersmash brothers club. I have friends from pretty much every group of people, preppy kids, emos, nerds. I don't pick on anyone and I stand up for anyone who gets bullied to the point that I took a few punches from one of my friends because he was just being rude to this kid for no reason other then the fact that he dressed like an emo. I know I am a good guy. Which is why I can't understand why I keep getting shot down. Like last year (my Jr year) I asked a girl to prom and she said yes! Only thing is 2 weeks later when prom was almost here I asked her if she wanted us to go with her group of friends or with a group of my friends. The only response I got was "I'm actually going with someone else" ...like that just crushed me. So that prom came and went and I actually ended up getting asked by a girl from a different school whose prom hadn't happened yet! I said yes of course.But 2 days later she texted me (didn't even say it to my face) that she found someone else to go with! I don't get what it is about me that makes girls do this. Every year since freshman year sadies will come and go and no girl asks me. sadies is on the 18th this year and im very doubtful that I'll be asked. 2 weeks ago I was out for coffee with my friend from 6th grade that I hadn't seen in years. In the heat of the conversation dances came up and she found out I had never been to one. She told me she would go to prom with me this year since its my senior year and I haven't experienced any kind of dance yet. So we started talking more and hung out a few times and I thought we were going to be more than friends! Then suddenly she stops talking to me! It was a week and I just though she might have lost her phone. But then I see was using it to post facebook status's so I know she was getting my texts AND facebook messages. I know how the whole thing works with giving girls space and I never overwhelmed her with texts or phone calls. But its now been 2 weeks and I still haven't heard from her. So there goes my last shot at Sadies and probably prom as well. Seriously there is nothing I want to do more this year than to go to a dance with a date. Is there something I'm missing here on what I'm doing wrong? because im very confused on why girls ditch me all the time. I've lost all confidence in myself and its affecting every I do now. I just feel so worthless and left out.
With a school of 4,500 kids having "supervision" at a dance doesn't do anything since there are so many kids...and we don't have a no grinding rule either. But you shouldn't be grinding at prom anyways! They don't play many of those types of songs at our proms. They play music you can actually DANCE too. Dances are a huge part of my school so it has nothing to do with supervision
With a school of 4,500 kids having "supervision" at a dance doesn't do anything since there are so many kids...and we don't have a no grinding rule either. But you shouldn't be grinding at prom anyways! They don't play many of those types of songs at our proms. They play music you can actually DANCE too. Dances are a huge part of my school so it has nothing to do with supervision