Once again, I'm a 21 year old virgin. I am not ashamed at all. In fact I'm quite proud to be a virgin seeing as women are so quick to jump into bed with the first guy they meet these days. My only problem is that I am sick and tired of constantly ruining relationships with guys I really like. As soon as things get serious enough for us to start having sex, I pull away. I stop answering phone calls, I stop wanting to hang out and eventually, I stop seeing them altogether, leaving them dumbfounded and wondering what the hell they did wrong.
Obviously I am scared to have sex and I've attributed it to my parents portraying sex as a really bad thing. I was kind of molested by my uncle when I was young. He was 12 and I was 6. He took me behind the house and tried to take off my pants, while telling me that he wanted to see what I tasted like. I ran before anything could happen. When I told my dad, he freaked out and pretty much acted like I was in trouble and sent me to my room until my mom got home from work (about four hours). Ever since then, they've instilled in my head that sex is pretty much a horrible thing causing me to be really scared of even allowing myself to become too close to others.
What should I do!? How can I stop being scared? How can I gain the confidence to have sex?
Any advice at all is greatly appreciated!
Thanks!
Obviously I am scared to have sex and I've attributed it to my parents portraying sex as a really bad thing. I was kind of molested by my uncle when I was young. He was 12 and I was 6. He took me behind the house and tried to take off my pants, while telling me that he wanted to see what I tasted like. I ran before anything could happen. When I told my dad, he freaked out and pretty much acted like I was in trouble and sent me to my room until my mom got home from work (about four hours). Ever since then, they've instilled in my head that sex is pretty much a horrible thing causing me to be really scared of even allowing myself to become too close to others.
What should I do!? How can I stop being scared? How can I gain the confidence to have sex?
Any advice at all is greatly appreciated!
Thanks!