they flip out when i bring somebody over without telling them, and if i have to tell the friend to wait outside so i can go in and tell them then i feel demasculated and it makes me feel like why bother being successful socially if at some point I'm going to have to bring people home and they might not see me as a little boy in a sense. Should i just bring people in anyway or is it normal to give notice to other family members before you have people over??? Also how would you feel if your friend did this to you??