I'm only 16 and I feel like I'm 40. I am angry 75% of the time and the smallest things will set me off. My dad was fired from his job about 2 years ago and it had nothing to do with the economy. Ever since that which just heightened everything I had already been feeling. I have been babysitting all summer and some of the shows that the three year wants to watch send me into a rage that I have to contain. I have closed myself off from the world and the past 6 months I haven't felt like myself. I don't walk around pulling the "woes me" stuff that other people do because that just aggravates me to no end. My parents tell me that I am not the snuggle buddy I was when I was younger, I get extremely uncomfortable and pissed off whenever my mom or dad or brother come in my room or try to hold my hand or hug me. I'm. Not the type of person to explain myself to some random person because I feel like its a sign of weakness and when people try and tell me what to do ,like a counselor, it puts the anger at an even higher level. I've tried the count to 10 thing and it makes me mad too. I'm tired, angry, aggravated and emotional ALL THE TIME. I don't know what to do but I don't know if this is a sign of depression or anxiety or symptoms of stress...
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I'm 16 and I'm angry and frustrated all the time
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digimonkid_2000
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Well, I get very emotional and upset, not mad, but either way, being like that is extremely unhealthy.
So here's what I think:
1. Is there something bothering you? Right now? Something you just can't seem to let go of? Some type of resentment towards anyone? think about it. I'm sure one thing might come to mind. If not, then:
2. Allright, so you wake up. How do you feel? Try to remember how you feel throughout the day and if there's ever a time you don't feel angry. There might be situations that set you off. You might be happy alone in your room, and might not like to be disturbed. But you get angry when your family comes in. Why? Do you want to be alone? Do they barge in without asking?
3. Write down all the things that get you upset. I've been trying to do that, but I haven't even started so I suggest that you shouldn't put if off like I have. See how angry you get. There might be things that get you more mad than other things.
Then ask why, and if you can let it go. For instance, the other day I wanted to eat my yogurt. My dad had bought my three brothers and I one yogurt each and I didn't eat it right away, saving it for the next morning. The next morning I forgot to eat it since I had to go somewhere. I came back home, and the yogurt was gone. My baby brother (who's 3) ate mine, having already eaten his. I got very mad. I love yogurt, and my parents rarely buy it, and I'm tired of having to "protect" my food from my brothers, or else they'll eat it. See what i mean?
Look at the list, and just evaluate each situation. Be happy! Life is way too short!
So here's what I think:
1. Is there something bothering you? Right now? Something you just can't seem to let go of? Some type of resentment towards anyone? think about it. I'm sure one thing might come to mind. If not, then:
2. Allright, so you wake up. How do you feel? Try to remember how you feel throughout the day and if there's ever a time you don't feel angry. There might be situations that set you off. You might be happy alone in your room, and might not like to be disturbed. But you get angry when your family comes in. Why? Do you want to be alone? Do they barge in without asking?
3. Write down all the things that get you upset. I've been trying to do that, but I haven't even started so I suggest that you shouldn't put if off like I have. See how angry you get. There might be things that get you more mad than other things.
Then ask why, and if you can let it go. For instance, the other day I wanted to eat my yogurt. My dad had bought my three brothers and I one yogurt each and I didn't eat it right away, saving it for the next morning. The next morning I forgot to eat it since I had to go somewhere. I came back home, and the yogurt was gone. My baby brother (who's 3) ate mine, having already eaten his. I got very mad. I love yogurt, and my parents rarely buy it, and I'm tired of having to "protect" my food from my brothers, or else they'll eat it. See what i mean?
Look at the list, and just evaluate each situation. Be happy! Life is way too short!
mmulisha89
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Anger is usually caused by something. You may be upset that your dad isn't working. That causes alot of stress and anxiety in a household. You probably don't see anything that you can do to fix it either and that is very frustrating.
You may be depressed also. The fact that you are withdrawing from your family says a lot.
You sound like an insightful teen. Is there someone that you can talk to? Either a minister or a counselor at school? If your family can't afford a counselor for you, I would suggest going to the county public health for help. You need to see someone who will help you work through all the issues you are experiencing. OR go to your family GP if you trust him/her. They can keep confidences if you request them not to tell your parents.
Good luck my dear..
You may be depressed also. The fact that you are withdrawing from your family says a lot.
You sound like an insightful teen. Is there someone that you can talk to? Either a minister or a counselor at school? If your family can't afford a counselor for you, I would suggest going to the county public health for help. You need to see someone who will help you work through all the issues you are experiencing. OR go to your family GP if you trust him/her. They can keep confidences if you request them not to tell your parents.
Good luck my dear..
Eddie[Is Taken]
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madi02
Is there a possiblity that you are mad because your father lost his job and now your family is most likely living on a very tight budget?
I say this because my 14 year old daughter randomly gets mad when she see her friends with all the latest gadgets (I pod touches, I pads, Blackberry cellphones) and all I can tell her is that we are on a strict budget and that unfortuately I am unable to buy her all the "in" things.
She also would get mad because there were some mean kids at the school she was attending and she could not figure out a way to take care of the problem.
So my question to you is-is your family on a strict budget and are you babysitting to get some extra money to hopefully buy something that you really want, but the money is not enough to get that item as soon as you would wish? While you are babysitting are your friends all doing fun things this summer?
In terms of the "woes me" attitude, well I think you actually should start to show your parents the "woe me" attitude, not because it will get you anywhere, but because it will help relieve all that bent up frustration that you have inside you.
Why was your father fired from his job two years ago--did he do something and are you now disappointed in him? Is there a reason (I know the economy is bad) he has not found another job? Does your mother work to help pay the housing expenses? Are you mad that she is working and not home to help you through this very tough time in your life?
16 years old is a very tough age and many things are happening that make teenagers angry. However, you do need to confide in someone you trust. You need to get the anger out of you and than begin to learn how to handle situations that make you upset so that you do not end up in a funk. As my mother always told me, "no one promised you a rose garden" and she was right. Teenage time is a great and not so great time and sometimes you have to reliquish your pride and ask an adult to help you sort through every day life.
Use this board if you want to vend and air your displeasures. There are alot of people who read and they have some great advice on coping mechanisms.
Please keep me informed on how you are feeling.
Brenda
Is there a possiblity that you are mad because your father lost his job and now your family is most likely living on a very tight budget?
I say this because my 14 year old daughter randomly gets mad when she see her friends with all the latest gadgets (I pod touches, I pads, Blackberry cellphones) and all I can tell her is that we are on a strict budget and that unfortuately I am unable to buy her all the "in" things.
She also would get mad because there were some mean kids at the school she was attending and she could not figure out a way to take care of the problem.
So my question to you is-is your family on a strict budget and are you babysitting to get some extra money to hopefully buy something that you really want, but the money is not enough to get that item as soon as you would wish? While you are babysitting are your friends all doing fun things this summer?
In terms of the "woes me" attitude, well I think you actually should start to show your parents the "woe me" attitude, not because it will get you anywhere, but because it will help relieve all that bent up frustration that you have inside you.
Why was your father fired from his job two years ago--did he do something and are you now disappointed in him? Is there a reason (I know the economy is bad) he has not found another job? Does your mother work to help pay the housing expenses? Are you mad that she is working and not home to help you through this very tough time in your life?
16 years old is a very tough age and many things are happening that make teenagers angry. However, you do need to confide in someone you trust. You need to get the anger out of you and than begin to learn how to handle situations that make you upset so that you do not end up in a funk. As my mother always told me, "no one promised you a rose garden" and she was right. Teenage time is a great and not so great time and sometimes you have to reliquish your pride and ask an adult to help you sort through every day life.
Use this board if you want to vend and air your displeasures. There are alot of people who read and they have some great advice on coping mechanisms.
Please keep me informed on how you are feeling.
Brenda