Either by you explaining or somehow coercing them into understanding that they need to compromise? My wife thinks that I should do all the work, and take all the rejection, and she has no responsibility to put herself out there. I've tried talking with her about it. Then we tried going to counseling. I've been very clear, probably annoyingly clear. But she hasn't taken any initiative, she refuses. So now we are going months (will be years) without any degree of intimacy. It's beyond sex now... we aren't even communicating on basic day to day experiences. We are totally disconnected. I used to be nice all the time, now I see that I was the one supporting her habit, and if I don't try, she doesn't try, and the whole relationship shuts down.
We have 2 kids and I really don't want to divorce over this issue. But if she won't come around and meet me halfway, what else can I do? Is it impossible to think she will change?
BTW, when I initiate it, it must be on saturday night only, and even then, she says no half the time. any other day or time is a definate no. I can't have it like this.
We have 2 kids and I really don't want to divorce over this issue. But if she won't come around and meet me halfway, what else can I do? Is it impossible to think she will change?
BTW, when I initiate it, it must be on saturday night only, and even then, she says no half the time. any other day or time is a definate no. I can't have it like this.