truer words are rarely said. the vast majority of men and women will never have the freedom of spirit to dance and make (REAL) love. sex is dance. when i go to parties i dance my ass off hoping to find that special girl who also can free her hips from her shoulders. most people are too self-conscious to let everything go in this way, and these people are always TOTALLY lame in the sack. Word to other men; don't be surprised if the other guys laugh at you when you dance for real, it is their defense mechanism for being sexually inadequate. Don't worry, only the stupid girls will fall for this, and you don't want them anyway.
Look for people who move their hips independently from their chests. hip movements should be loose and fluid, displaying relaxed hamstrings, back and butt muscles. contrary motion between the chest and hips is desirable. Ultimately being good at dance and sex is about knowing oneself. Real dancing is intuitive, it comes from an inner sense of aesthetics and should look original, authentic, and easy as pie.
Avoid stiff people. Avoid those who make gimmicky/cliched movements, or those who look like they are "mocking" real dance. These are the IMITATORS in life, they are the vast majority of people. Only the INNOVATORS have what it takes to be good in bed, as it is a skill that cannot be taught. they are exceptional. Sex is risky business, and it's not worth it unless you're sure that your partner is real and truly exceptional. look for people that honestly smile and show off an inner glow. to them sex and dancing are the most fun things in the world--these are people who have got their priorities strait.
final word, ACTUALLY being good at dancing is a display of great and unusual intelligence, so don't be surprised if your tiny dancer possesses a huge brain. sex/dancing is an INSTINCT.
