This is a very unique situation. My husband and I have 2 dogs. Molly a yorkie dauschound mix is my dog before marriage and Denis a westie was his dog before marriage. My husband does not care to own a bigger dog. Small dogs = small poop. I have been married before and my ex kept one of our dogs in the divorce. She was a lab/german shephard mix. He brought her home one day and she was suppose to be his dog. However I took care of her and we bonded. She protected me from strangers and I felt very safe and loved with her although she was a handful at times. She is so well behaved. I have two complaints about her, big poop and she sheds. Recently I found out that he wants to get rid of her and he hasn't had much luck. So she is home alone most of the time. I know she has food and water and access to the back yard. But above that I don't know what her quality of life is like. I was the one that took her on walks and brushed her and took her to the vet etc. Needless to say finding out that he didn't want her anymore, I went to my husband hoping that he would open his heart to her. Unfortunatly that wasn't the case. My husband is an intelligent man and is sometimes hard to argue with because he makes good points.
1. She will restrict our ability to travel. He sometimes has to travel for work and since my work schedule is flexible we drop our dogs off at a friends and I can go with him. (we don't have any kids yet)
2. Our friend that normally watches our dogs will not watch a bigger dog.
3. Boarding is expensive and we can not afford it.
4. The shedding and added mess that comes with owning a big dog.
5. He is afraid that the quality of life our two dogs have will decline.
I understand all his points and I recognize them as concens as they are concerns of my own. However I have an emotional attachment to her that I can not seem to get over. He has agreed that if she means that much to me than I can have her. My delima is that I will be subjecting my husband and our current dogs and our lifestyle to a very large change and I don't know that if it will be for the best. I need help either coming to terms with not having her or feeling okay with bringing her into our life. I am very conflicted. I will not take her and then in a month say "oh this is to hard take her back" so I must be positive that this is the right decision. Any opinions or advice would be greatly appreciated.
1. She will restrict our ability to travel. He sometimes has to travel for work and since my work schedule is flexible we drop our dogs off at a friends and I can go with him. (we don't have any kids yet)
2. Our friend that normally watches our dogs will not watch a bigger dog.
3. Boarding is expensive and we can not afford it.
4. The shedding and added mess that comes with owning a big dog.
5. He is afraid that the quality of life our two dogs have will decline.
I understand all his points and I recognize them as concens as they are concerns of my own. However I have an emotional attachment to her that I can not seem to get over. He has agreed that if she means that much to me than I can have her. My delima is that I will be subjecting my husband and our current dogs and our lifestyle to a very large change and I don't know that if it will be for the best. I need help either coming to terms with not having her or feeling okay with bringing her into our life. I am very conflicted. I will not take her and then in a month say "oh this is to hard take her back" so I must be positive that this is the right decision. Any opinions or advice would be greatly appreciated.