Cinnimon Denila
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low/no sexual desire Male 25? I'm looking for someone who may be able to help my fiancé. He is a 25 yr old Male, Caucasian, tall, Athletic type build
We moved in together 4 years and 3 months ago. We had a very intense sexual relationship. We also had a very intense personal connection (having been friends for 6+ years prior) and we started talking about serious issues like his fathers death (where he cried), getting married and him adopting my then 18 month old son.
After about 4 months, he hurt his knee during sex one day, or at least thats the way it looked. He could have hurt it before hand and not noticed until then. Regardless he was unable to work or have sex. He started having sleep issues, insomnia and broken sleep. In that time we had other issues and "fell apart". We attributed it mostly to his stress about not being able to work. We continued to live together and stayed close friends. Most people couldn't distinguish us from a couple.
He had his knee looked at. He had scans and went to a physical therapist. They said other then what was most likely a slight tear in his cartilage (I think, it was the soft disk in his knee) there wasn't anything wrong with it and it would heal quickly and he would be right back to work.
It did heal. Not very quickly, but it did and he went back to working as soon as he could. I never thought it was ever 100%. He wanted to go back to work. He continued having at least some sleep issues.
The sexual desire however didn't come back. Even when we were back together on and off for the next 3 years it was never the same. It was always very loving and well connected. But it was never really sexual. I just figured it was an emotional issue. At one point I thought he might be gay. (Or it was me? I don't know) I know he told me stories about losing interested in the only other girl he ever dated, but he didn't really like her (sounds horrible I know but she was a long distance fling if you will) He was enlisted for four years over seas and went almost the whole 4 years without sex, and he was perfectly fine with that. At 25 hes had 2 relationships and only 1 serious. In 4 years he never masturbated or watched porn. He insisted he was not molested and he wasn't gay. He just wasn't interested. (And there was no problem getting it up. He was at attention more then you could imagine.. he just never wanted to use it. And when he did it was quick, no foreplay and that was it. Never twice in a row. And he was usually super sensitive. I always got mine, and told him how great the sex was. He was happy, but never overly thrilled about having sex)
Over those three years the knee pain would come and go regularly. It seemed like the more he exercised (we were 6 day a week gym people at one point) the better it felt BUT work would irritate it. Sometimes we thought it was the twisting and turning, other times rain related, other times stress. If he spent too much time on the couch or at the computer it would "act up". He would often describe it as different pains, sometimes shooting (usually at work) sometimes a dull ache that wouldn't go away; mostly joint, but sometimes muscle. For a while both knees hurt (We thought from him compensating for the bad knee) Heat seems to help a little.
I didn't think they were connected until about a year ago. He moved far away and I was following him after a few months. He worked 70+ hrs/wk. No Knee pain. It rained, No Knee Pain. He started masturbating several times a day. Watching all kinds of porn, and tried hooking up on a website (But didn't) I went to visit him. We had sex, several times in a row even.
Yet it was also a very stressful time because I found out what he did on-line. We had a big fight and he started crying (the first time since we first moved in together) He told me how much he loved me and moved up our moving date from two months, to two weeks.
I moved out there and everything was fine. The sex went away after a while, and even though he was still watching porn and masturbating, it was only occasionally. We discussed everything that happened, and he had no idea how or why. Even he was confused. He swears he was "like another person". Not just sexually, but at work and in general.
We eventually split up and I saw someone else, but he didn't. He had opportunities but he didn't, and he stopped masturbating and watching porn again. After a long talk we got back together (we just work). I got pregnant. Our relationship is incredible. Yet we have sex rarely. He says he doesn't care if we ever do it, for the rest of our lives, because he's just happy with how things are. No porn, no masturbating in 4+ months.
Though in 4 months, the knee pains back, he has broken sleep, and now his eye is twitching. We thought eating or stress, but no clear links. I think it may be hormonal. Or a nutritional imbalance, (we are 1 meal a day people). I've he
We moved in together 4 years and 3 months ago. We had a very intense sexual relationship. We also had a very intense personal connection (having been friends for 6+ years prior) and we started talking about serious issues like his fathers death (where he cried), getting married and him adopting my then 18 month old son.
After about 4 months, he hurt his knee during sex one day, or at least thats the way it looked. He could have hurt it before hand and not noticed until then. Regardless he was unable to work or have sex. He started having sleep issues, insomnia and broken sleep. In that time we had other issues and "fell apart". We attributed it mostly to his stress about not being able to work. We continued to live together and stayed close friends. Most people couldn't distinguish us from a couple.
He had his knee looked at. He had scans and went to a physical therapist. They said other then what was most likely a slight tear in his cartilage (I think, it was the soft disk in his knee) there wasn't anything wrong with it and it would heal quickly and he would be right back to work.
It did heal. Not very quickly, but it did and he went back to working as soon as he could. I never thought it was ever 100%. He wanted to go back to work. He continued having at least some sleep issues.
The sexual desire however didn't come back. Even when we were back together on and off for the next 3 years it was never the same. It was always very loving and well connected. But it was never really sexual. I just figured it was an emotional issue. At one point I thought he might be gay. (Or it was me? I don't know) I know he told me stories about losing interested in the only other girl he ever dated, but he didn't really like her (sounds horrible I know but she was a long distance fling if you will) He was enlisted for four years over seas and went almost the whole 4 years without sex, and he was perfectly fine with that. At 25 hes had 2 relationships and only 1 serious. In 4 years he never masturbated or watched porn. He insisted he was not molested and he wasn't gay. He just wasn't interested. (And there was no problem getting it up. He was at attention more then you could imagine.. he just never wanted to use it. And when he did it was quick, no foreplay and that was it. Never twice in a row. And he was usually super sensitive. I always got mine, and told him how great the sex was. He was happy, but never overly thrilled about having sex)
Over those three years the knee pain would come and go regularly. It seemed like the more he exercised (we were 6 day a week gym people at one point) the better it felt BUT work would irritate it. Sometimes we thought it was the twisting and turning, other times rain related, other times stress. If he spent too much time on the couch or at the computer it would "act up". He would often describe it as different pains, sometimes shooting (usually at work) sometimes a dull ache that wouldn't go away; mostly joint, but sometimes muscle. For a while both knees hurt (We thought from him compensating for the bad knee) Heat seems to help a little.
I didn't think they were connected until about a year ago. He moved far away and I was following him after a few months. He worked 70+ hrs/wk. No Knee pain. It rained, No Knee Pain. He started masturbating several times a day. Watching all kinds of porn, and tried hooking up on a website (But didn't) I went to visit him. We had sex, several times in a row even.
Yet it was also a very stressful time because I found out what he did on-line. We had a big fight and he started crying (the first time since we first moved in together) He told me how much he loved me and moved up our moving date from two months, to two weeks.
I moved out there and everything was fine. The sex went away after a while, and even though he was still watching porn and masturbating, it was only occasionally. We discussed everything that happened, and he had no idea how or why. Even he was confused. He swears he was "like another person". Not just sexually, but at work and in general.
We eventually split up and I saw someone else, but he didn't. He had opportunities but he didn't, and he stopped masturbating and watching porn again. After a long talk we got back together (we just work). I got pregnant. Our relationship is incredible. Yet we have sex rarely. He says he doesn't care if we ever do it, for the rest of our lives, because he's just happy with how things are. No porn, no masturbating in 4+ months.
Though in 4 months, the knee pains back, he has broken sleep, and now his eye is twitching. We thought eating or stress, but no clear links. I think it may be hormonal. Or a nutritional imbalance, (we are 1 meal a day people). I've he