David Miller
New member
So, I met this guy...
And we were talking a LOT online. Things were going really really well. We had conversations where we basically said that we'd both like to be dating each other. He came over this past weekend. It was incredible. We both agree it was incredible. I asked half way through the weekend what his thoughts on dating were. He said he didn't know. He really likes me, but worries about a power dynamic.
So he's spent the last two days stressing himself out trying to figure out if we are dating or not. He was unhappy, because he felt obligated to date after things that happened this weekend. I agree those are horrible conditions to begin a relationship under, and starting to date now would have ended poorly... And I think we need to be friends first.... But he said tonight that he wants to be really really good friends. And that's all he wants. I agree it's the right move to make.... but I wanted it with potential for more eventually.
Part of me is like... okay. I really like him. Friends are never bad.
Part of me is like... I really like him. I can't entertain the idea of dating someone else if I feel like there's always the potential things could change with us. Technically I'm getting what I think is best, but I'm getting it in the way I wanted it least.
I don't know what to do. I wanna be his friend. But I can't forget I'm interested in him. I can't forget how much I eventually wanna date him....
"Things" this weekend are not sex.
And I had seen him before in person prior to this weekend. This was a big investment.
And we were talking a LOT online. Things were going really really well. We had conversations where we basically said that we'd both like to be dating each other. He came over this past weekend. It was incredible. We both agree it was incredible. I asked half way through the weekend what his thoughts on dating were. He said he didn't know. He really likes me, but worries about a power dynamic.
So he's spent the last two days stressing himself out trying to figure out if we are dating or not. He was unhappy, because he felt obligated to date after things that happened this weekend. I agree those are horrible conditions to begin a relationship under, and starting to date now would have ended poorly... And I think we need to be friends first.... But he said tonight that he wants to be really really good friends. And that's all he wants. I agree it's the right move to make.... but I wanted it with potential for more eventually.
Part of me is like... okay. I really like him. Friends are never bad.
Part of me is like... I really like him. I can't entertain the idea of dating someone else if I feel like there's always the potential things could change with us. Technically I'm getting what I think is best, but I'm getting it in the way I wanted it least.
I don't know what to do. I wanna be his friend. But I can't forget I'm interested in him. I can't forget how much I eventually wanna date him....
"Things" this weekend are not sex.
And I had seen him before in person prior to this weekend. This was a big investment.