I stood against my sons mother with no lawyer, can you....?

[putt,putt]

She was dating guys that my son disliked. There were other complications. I approached his mother and her male partner with words. They said I was harrassing them. My son was still held captive by his mother. So I wrote letters involving info of his moms past and mailed them to her mother and to her male partners house. I told her male partner no need for him to get a lawyer because I find my sons mothers behavior the fault. The letters were affective, stirred things and let them know I was never going away. My next step was the courthouse to file for a custody change and to shorten the story, a peaceful outcome was worked out with her lawyer, I have half custody of my son (before I only had visitation) and as long as my sons mother doesnt bring strangers in my sons life and try to have them act as if they were his father, we can remain in peace towards each other. Fathers, do what you feel is right and a lawyer won't be necessary.

 

[holly]

I am glad you were able to work out your differences without a lawyer. I myself wrote and filed my own divorce decree and custody agreement without a lawyer and have a peaceable arrangement with my ex-husband. It can be done, but both parties have to be unselfish adults and want what is best for the child.

 

[meagan]

I'm glad everything has worked out well for you, but your babymama does have a right to date. Unless the men are abusive toward your son, it's not your place to tell her that she can't have them in her life. No kid is going to like sharing his Mommy with someone else.

Also, I'm wondering if you have put the same limitation on yourself: no dating until your son is grown up. If not, then you have no right to expect her to give up dating.

I know that there is probably more to this story than you are able to write here, but your attitude just hit me the wrong way. Maybe because my former boyfriend was going through a similar situation with his controlling ex-wife.