i really need some SERIOUS advice?

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ok please be kind and only give genuin advice...my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years, and a few nights ago he spent the night at a friends house and when he came home he didn't sleep for a day and a half. He has a history of drug abuse and I questioned him and he denied doing anything. I later found out that he had done Meth, and altough he's only done it a few times, i'm very upset that he lied to me. After him denying it again, i confronted him about it again and he came clean saying he made a mistake and was sorry. I told him to leave and after an hour of him crying and packing i told him not to go but that i needed someone who was responsible and didn't need there hand held through life. he's 5 years older then me and i'm doing a lot better in my life then he is. I love him and i don't want to leave him but i don't feel like I can trust him. What do i do?i so appreciate all of your advice so far. This happened last week and since then he's been totally upset all the time feeling horrible and i think he's genuinly sorry and wants to fix things. but i worry that its going to come up again and i don't want to waste the best years of my life with someone who doesn't see our relationship going anywere and he hasn't said that but more shows it. I don't want to wake up in 5 years and have us be in the same place we are now.
 
tell him that if he does drugs one more time that hes going to be out!bring him to a rehab center or something...but hes probabley not addicted if he only did it twice...but i think tht u mean tht he only did meth twice and other drugs at time because u said tht u knew tht he did drugs in the past but u didnt no about the meth...so yea...umm and tell him tht even if he trys to hide it..you'll find out and that you have many many sources tht can tell u
 
I think if he does it once or twice he will continue to do it.sounds like you need to find someone else that doesn't lie to you
 
Trust me. Leave now. If he lied to you already, and if you can't trust him, there is a reason for it. He came clean because he was busted. If you hadn't confronted him, he still wouldn't have admitted it.Sometimes, it takes losing a lot to get a person better. It doesn't take much to pull loved ones down with you if you are an addict. Be supportive if you want, but leave the relationship.
 
this is hard hes alot older idk i mean he lied and stuff be if you are a drug adict you kind of are in denyial and stuff and try to hide it maybe you should ask him to get some help with that because you need him to be clean if hes serious and wants to be together and have a good life and be a good parent. trust me no offense you wouldnt want to marry someone who does drugs especialy like meth and stuff. you should ask him to get help.
 
yeah i'd have to say you give him an ultimatum. Either he cleans up his act, or he's out. and you won't change your mind next time. Also, if he does have drugs in his possession, you'll call the police. If this becomes a problem, you'll have to intervene and send him to a rehab facility. if you say all of these things, he should be terrified enough to not do it again, unless he's stupider than you're making him out to be. I hope things work out for you okay!!
 
Support him by telling him you know he has a history of drug abuse and you don't want that to happen to him again tell him that you care about him and don't want him to do something so addicted ,ask him what you can do to help him not want it and do it again but don't let him use it over your head!!!
 
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