I need to know what to do? I have been seeing a guy for a while but he's got a

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Jessica

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history of sleeping around? I need help with a guy situation. I have recently started seeing this guy i've knowen for years. Heres the problem i'm 19 hes 34. He has just split up from his wife a couple of months ago. he has 2 kids which he see every other weekend. My parents hate him and would be devasted if they knew what i was doing.

He has a lot of history with drugs, drink and the law. But all that has stopped.

I really like him and he wants us too make ago of things.

What do i do as everyone tells me that he will just cheat on me and mess me around but i know him better then anyone? I know he's done some bad things and so does he, but they are all in his past.

We spent an amazing friday night together, I just know that seeing him will make my mum throw me out. As i know she hates him, but i don't. I just need 2 know what to do as i'm sooooooo confused!
 
What you need to be asking yourself is, at 19 years old are you really willing to be thrown out by your own mother and cause so much upset towards your parents for the sake of someone much older than you, who, without sounding harsh here isn't exactly perfect at all.

Do you also want the baggage of a bad history, ex wife and children? Surely at 19 you should be having fun with people your own age, not with someone who's 'been there and done that' years before?

I think if you were 34 years old too, then it would be different, because it would be like a 'real' relationship. But you aren't, you're 19 and let's be honest...you're not going to spend the rest of your life with him - is it worth it?

I know right now you're so wrapped up in it all that you don't want to just not make a go of things...but I think from what you said in your question, it isn't worth it. I'm sorry if I'm sounding harsh.

Of course, it's your choice and you can totally ignore me if you like...but that's just my opinion. Good luck with your decision making.
 
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