I need help..singles & dating not helping. I need advice!! Seeing guy 6 months, have...

[Keisha F]

...sex, go on dates? I have been seeing this guy for 6 months. In the beginning he would text message me like everyday just to see how I was doing but now it seems like I have to contact him more. Sometimes he even ignores me. I texted him “Good Morning Baby” today and he never responded. He still takes me out on dates and when we’re together it seems like he’s really into me. We do have sex and I was the one who wanted to do it!!! Even with us having sex ….I only see him once a week and he stays 5 mins away from me. I have completely fallen for him and my feelings are so strong!!!! We have only talked on the phone maybe 5 times since we have been seeing each other.

I have told him plenty of times that I’m not talking to other guys but he doesn’ t believe me. THAT REALLY HURTS ME!! After 6 months of dating why won’t he make a commitment to me???

I feel like he really needs to step up to the plate!!!!!
we had sex after 3 months of seeing each other!!!
WE ONLY HAD SEX 5 TIMES IN 6 MONTHS!!!

 

[justin g]

Wow...um...that's probably because the dude is getting a little freaked that you are starting to smother him. Hate to tell you this but it sounds like you tend to move way too fast in relationships. You are barely 6 months into the relationship and have already gone about as far as you can go into a romantic relationship without getting engaged/married. You need to quit having sex so soon in your relationships and to quit being so damn needy. If you don't run guys off with your attitude then you are more than likely going to be used and abused by guys out there because you are too easy. Think..........

 

[Invisigoth]

Calm down, honey. you've only been seeing him for 6 months! You don't make a commitment to someone after only 6 months!

here are my personal basic rules for sex in relationships and they have never let me down:

1. if you just want to play with this other person or you just want the companionship then introduce sex into the relationship whenever it feels right to do so.

2. if you want something more permanent then you don't have sex until you both agree that you are in an exclusive relationship.

you introduced sex before you mutually agreed to be exclusive. You have shown him that you don't value sex as something special to do between exclusive or committed people.

he isn't interested in committing to you and he's probably still dating other women.

You need to remember that most straight men and surprisingly a good many gay men will NOT turn down a naked woman in their bed when she offers herself up to them. Just because they have sex with you doesn't mean they love you and want to marry you and father your children.

you had sex with him too soon. Now you need to decide if you will continue on as you are or if you will end the relationship because the two of you aren't on the same page.

You can try telling him that "hey, look I really like you and I'd like to know if what we have could grow into something more but I think I introduced sex into the relationship too soon and I'd like to back off of that for now and see where things go." More than likely if you tell him that or something similar, he will go away BUT you will have your answer that he was only in it for the sex if that does happen. If he stays, they lucky you, he's interested but don't have sex with him again until the relationship is exclusive.

remember: if you're just playing, introduce sex whenever you want.

but if you want something more meaningful then you delay sex until the relationship is exclusive.

 

[huckleberrymoe]

Honey he's hit it and quit it! You need to start accepting the truth and start moving on.
It's not your fault, you didn't do anything wrong, he's just not that into you anymore now that he's hit it. This happens to boys and girls it's just life. Now the burden is on you to be strong enough to move on, don't call him again.

It has nothing to do with when you had sex, you waited longer than most girls do these days. Some people her just don't know what they are talking about. Like I said, you did nothing wrong. If you keep calling him you will have done something wrong, it's called being stupid.

 

[kyle]

Why would he commit? Looks like he has you wrapped around his finger. Stop having sex and see how long he stays with you. It's the ultimate test of a relationship for guys like that.

 

[:Sheila:]

If he is not calling you, move on. Men are supposed to be the pursuers!!! You can find a new guy who will actively pursue you. I'm sorry. Many women have to go through guys like this before they find a real man who will own up to his feelings and stop using women for sex.

Edit: Ok I see what you're saying.. And sorry if you didn't like how I said that. He may just be stringing along.. it is always nice to know that someone is pining for you.

In any case I would run.