Ok, so I have 2 kids froma previous relationship of 4 -5 yrs. A boy about to be 3 y/o and a baby girl 4 mos old. The father and I have had issues in the past getting along, I would fight him physically and he would fight me back.(mostly we fought about the fact that he wasnt working & how he wanted to go out all the time) He did however take care of our son for 1 1/2 yrs while i worked during the day. He still to this day says he cant get work b/c he has a felony on his record from 2006. I eneded the relationship in sept 2009, he moved out in dec 2009. My kids dad took the only bed in the apt, so i was left to sleep ona boxspring at 3 months pregnant, and in an argument where I accidentally hit him in the eye with my finger (he took my phone away from me and i tried to grab it from him) he pushed me down to the ground while pregnant. He keyed my car and forced the air out of my boyfriends tires the same month i had the baby. He was told by the nurse at the hospital, as I recovered froma c-section, that he could nto come to see the baby b/c pretty much he was acting rude towards me and talking to me disrespectfully. I understand he did all this b/c he was upset as I tookhis world away from him, and his kids so he says. Even after Ive let him see the kids he txts me all this tsuff talkign abotu the past and even says I suck as a mother. He still hasnt foudn a job, and im left to take care of the kids financially by myself. In a way I feel like I should let him see the kids, to certain extent as he still isnt doing anything to help me with them. When i have taken them to him i have to provide everything for him to take care of the kids. I just dont think its fair.....
I started seeing someone in Dec 2009 and he's the greatest guy Ive been with. he helps with the kids and sees him self a s a parent now since the kids and I do live with him. He just wants the kids dad to start helping financially, if not he wouldnt have such a big issue with him. But the fact that the kids father cant provide the basics for the kids, as well as disrespects me, and has vandalized our property, he sees no reason for this guy to be able to see the babies until he shows that hes earned it. I do think i have been makign it too easy on him to see the kids, he doesnt have to travel anywhere, i take the kids ot him, i provide everything & pay for everything. (He has bought the kids a couple sets of clothing recently) IM UNSURE WHAT TO DO, I UNDERTSAND MY BF'S POINT OF VIEW. BUT I ALSO FEEL THAT THE KIDS DAD SHOULD BE ABLE TO SEE THEM AT LEAST ONCE A WEEK. Am I doing the wrong or righ tthing? I want to file for custody of the kids, b/c the dad constantly shows up at their daycare wanting to take my oldest to spend time with him, and doesnt really tell me about it, and has just showed up at random places ive been at with the kids.
WWJD? IM LOST, I WANT TO DO THE RIGHT THING, BUT THE RIGHT THING IS FOR HIM TO START TAKIGN RESPONSIBILITY OF HIS OWN KIDS. MY BF SHOULDNT HAVE TO PAY FOR THE KIDS THINGS.....
I started seeing someone in Dec 2009 and he's the greatest guy Ive been with. he helps with the kids and sees him self a s a parent now since the kids and I do live with him. He just wants the kids dad to start helping financially, if not he wouldnt have such a big issue with him. But the fact that the kids father cant provide the basics for the kids, as well as disrespects me, and has vandalized our property, he sees no reason for this guy to be able to see the babies until he shows that hes earned it. I do think i have been makign it too easy on him to see the kids, he doesnt have to travel anywhere, i take the kids ot him, i provide everything & pay for everything. (He has bought the kids a couple sets of clothing recently) IM UNSURE WHAT TO DO, I UNDERTSAND MY BF'S POINT OF VIEW. BUT I ALSO FEEL THAT THE KIDS DAD SHOULD BE ABLE TO SEE THEM AT LEAST ONCE A WEEK. Am I doing the wrong or righ tthing? I want to file for custody of the kids, b/c the dad constantly shows up at their daycare wanting to take my oldest to spend time with him, and doesnt really tell me about it, and has just showed up at random places ive been at with the kids.
WWJD? IM LOST, I WANT TO DO THE RIGHT THING, BUT THE RIGHT THING IS FOR HIM TO START TAKIGN RESPONSIBILITY OF HIS OWN KIDS. MY BF SHOULDNT HAVE TO PAY FOR THE KIDS THINGS.....