hiya, i have recently moved in with my boyfriend. before hand we were both on benefits in our own names. when he moved in i thought "oh ill do it all properly and not commit fraud". so, we cancelled our benefits and reapplied as a couple. consequently we have had no money for 5 weeks. with all the "problems" the benefits office have encountered whilst processing our claims, it means we could be waiting a further four weeks until our claims are processed.
in the mean time me my boyfriend my 3 year old son and the dog, have been surviving on 55 pounds a week, which is maintenance from my ex. this is just enough money to cover the gas, electric and rent for the week, leaving 15 pounds cash to spare, which obviously goes on food, and not very much of it. actually, me and my boyfriend have been surviving on one meal a day!
the job centre have been extremely unhelpful when we have been in or rung up saying "its not our problem what do you want us to do"!!! but not only that but since we have been waiting for our payments, and receiving none, and direct debits have still been coming out of the bank, causing me to be nearly a thousand pounds overdrawn and also incurring bank charges from every which direction. im beginning to feel like i cant go on living like this. ive lent too much money off friends and family to ask for anymore, and i really do not know where to turn. im at my wits end and actually considering ending my life because all i ever do is cry all dady, and snap at my son and shout and scream at him. i feel like the worst mother in the world, i cant even provide for my own son.
please can anyone give me some genuine advice, none like "get a job then" because i am on the jobcentre website evryday without fail looking for one and there has been none suitable or all the ones i have applied for i never heard anything back. please please help me, what can i do?
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in the mean time me my boyfriend my 3 year old son and the dog, have been surviving on 55 pounds a week, which is maintenance from my ex. this is just enough money to cover the gas, electric and rent for the week, leaving 15 pounds cash to spare, which obviously goes on food, and not very much of it. actually, me and my boyfriend have been surviving on one meal a day!
the job centre have been extremely unhelpful when we have been in or rung up saying "its not our problem what do you want us to do"!!! but not only that but since we have been waiting for our payments, and receiving none, and direct debits have still been coming out of the bank, causing me to be nearly a thousand pounds overdrawn and also incurring bank charges from every which direction. im beginning to feel like i cant go on living like this. ive lent too much money off friends and family to ask for anymore, and i really do not know where to turn. im at my wits end and actually considering ending my life because all i ever do is cry all dady, and snap at my son and shout and scream at him. i feel like the worst mother in the world, i cant even provide for my own son.
please can anyone give me some genuine advice, none like "get a job then" because i am on the jobcentre website evryday without fail looking for one and there has been none suitable or all the ones i have applied for i never heard anything back. please please help me, what can i do?
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