PinkPrincesss
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ok, so a few weeks into our relationship, we went to a party at my friend's house. We were all drinking, but not really drunk. We played this silly game, where someone is blindfolded, and then someone else passionately kisses them and they have to guess who it was.
My best friend was there, and was happy to play even though she had a boyfriend (who wasn't there) that she'd been with for 2 years. There were 2 single people there, and another couple.
Anyway, we all played the silly game. To be honest, I only played because my feelings for my hubby weren't really that strong then, and I didn't really think about it. On the other hand, my hubby was madly in love with me.
The next day, we discussed it, and my hubby said that "it'd be boring if the couples didn't play" and that he hadn't really thought about it before playing.
Thing is, I have so many questions:
1) Why did he play? If he was so in love with me, why play?
2) Would he play it again, if I was there? (Whether I played or not)
3) Would he play it again, if I wasn't there?
4) Does he think it's cheating?
I tried to discuss it with my husband last night but he got angry and refused. In fairness to him, I used to accuse him of cheating and go on and on about cheating, porn etc. all the time. So I can see why he wouldn't want to talk about a touchy subject.
I tried to find out why he played it originally, and reminded him that he said "it'd be boring if the couples didn't play" and that he hadn't thought about it, and tried to get answers out of him. But all he would say is "you've just told me 2 of my answers, why do you need to ask again?"
When I told him that "it'd be boring if the couples didn't play" was not an excuse to cheat, he just told me to f*ck off and got annoyed that I was hinting he was a cheater.
I am just so annoyed, how can I trust that he won't play it again whether I am there or not?
Does he think it is cheating? I sure as hell do. But he refuses to discuss it, so how do I know if he agrees?
What if the opportunity comes up again, and all the other couples are playing? Will he join in, and expect me to? Or would he join in even if I don't? Or worse, what if I'm not there at all! Would he play then?
I think it's cheating, but he won't discuss it, so I can't ask him if he agrees.
What shall I do?
My best friend was there, and was happy to play even though she had a boyfriend (who wasn't there) that she'd been with for 2 years. There were 2 single people there, and another couple.
Anyway, we all played the silly game. To be honest, I only played because my feelings for my hubby weren't really that strong then, and I didn't really think about it. On the other hand, my hubby was madly in love with me.
The next day, we discussed it, and my hubby said that "it'd be boring if the couples didn't play" and that he hadn't really thought about it before playing.
Thing is, I have so many questions:
1) Why did he play? If he was so in love with me, why play?
2) Would he play it again, if I was there? (Whether I played or not)
3) Would he play it again, if I wasn't there?
4) Does he think it's cheating?
I tried to discuss it with my husband last night but he got angry and refused. In fairness to him, I used to accuse him of cheating and go on and on about cheating, porn etc. all the time. So I can see why he wouldn't want to talk about a touchy subject.
I tried to find out why he played it originally, and reminded him that he said "it'd be boring if the couples didn't play" and that he hadn't thought about it, and tried to get answers out of him. But all he would say is "you've just told me 2 of my answers, why do you need to ask again?"
When I told him that "it'd be boring if the couples didn't play" was not an excuse to cheat, he just told me to f*ck off and got annoyed that I was hinting he was a cheater.
I am just so annoyed, how can I trust that he won't play it again whether I am there or not?
Does he think it is cheating? I sure as hell do. But he refuses to discuss it, so how do I know if he agrees?
What if the opportunity comes up again, and all the other couples are playing? Will he join in, and expect me to? Or would he join in even if I don't? Or worse, what if I'm not there at all! Would he play then?
I think it's cheating, but he won't discuss it, so I can't ask him if he agrees.
What shall I do?