Me n my fiance have been together for 5 years, lived 3 years together. We both were raised in different religons, he was raised a muslim. we have discussed our beliefs in God and are ok with it. Our families are not happy with this. My paretns are yet to meet/speak to his parents (God help....how that is going to turn out). His paretns immediately flew down to his place. They are extremely orthodox and following people( His mom wears hijab, where they cover the whole body etc). My fiance's expectations dont match his parents. He explained that to them. His parent dont know we lived togther n knw what we are getting into. but his parents n me just dont get along. Not one thing which I do matches their lifestyle n vice versa. Although we never say anythign to each other its my fiance who has to listen to everything. I feel bad but i dont want to hide anything. He is the only son and would be expected to take care of them I am scared what will happen then. I love him a lot
I'm afraid your fiance has taken on a battle that only he can fight and finish.
All you can do is be supportive of him and make him realize that no matter what, you are on his side. You can probably soften the culture gap (not the religious one) by learning a few Muslim things.
if you know you will have to deal with these people for the entire marriage and support them later on, you need to decide if its worth it. if you say that it is, be sure you can commit to that.
It seems marrying someone also equals to marrying his parents. I'm going thru the same phase as you. Except that I'm married and I didn't even say a word to his mother...
I hope you can try living together/ talk it out. Settle things before ,marrying otherwise (not trying to scare you) you'll end up like me.
you love him alot and you two want to get married. parents go through denail. its not that they dont care, its that they are scared. they want the best for you guys and you future children. they want all of these questions to be answered but some you cant answer. its hard but what you need to do is have him talk to his parents and you talk to your parents and tell them you really love eachother and it would mean the world to you guys if they would meet eachother. if they refuse try doctor phil or maury. they will help you. you have to email them and get both parents to go on there and explain why they dont want to meet eachother. If they doesnt work you and your fiance need to talk to your parents and find out what there problem is. if you dont this will start to tear your family apart and you and your fiance will fight a lot. so talk to them. i hope this helps
