My parents were very strict and controlling when I was growing up. I knew they wouldn't have reacted well if I came out in either high school or even college. As long as they still had any control over my life I didn't want to risk it.
But now I'm out of college, found a great job on the other side of the country and am completely independent. I didn't want to come out right after college otherwise it would have seemed like I was doing it in spite. I've been out of college for half of a year now. I'm thinking it's time to come out.
I live across the country and only see my whole family together maybe twice a year for holidays. I want to come out in person, but don't want to make a scene during the family holiday. By phone? I'd rather not. I could see my mom hanging up as soon as I tell her and she'd blame it on a dropped call. Therefore refusing to acknowledge what I said to her. Awkward.
I just kind of feel guilty. I'm making new friends and am open and honest to them. But I'm lying to my own family. It hasn't came up since my family's not usually around me, but I'd feel foolish if I started dating someone and I had to tell her I was still hiding from my family. Really, what are they going to do? Kick me out of the house or take away my allowance? I think not
I realize I've just made this worse for myself by not telling them sooner. This whole situation could have been avoided. How to you think I should handle this? Thanks for your advice!
But now I'm out of college, found a great job on the other side of the country and am completely independent. I didn't want to come out right after college otherwise it would have seemed like I was doing it in spite. I've been out of college for half of a year now. I'm thinking it's time to come out.
I live across the country and only see my whole family together maybe twice a year for holidays. I want to come out in person, but don't want to make a scene during the family holiday. By phone? I'd rather not. I could see my mom hanging up as soon as I tell her and she'd blame it on a dropped call. Therefore refusing to acknowledge what I said to her. Awkward.
I just kind of feel guilty. I'm making new friends and am open and honest to them. But I'm lying to my own family. It hasn't came up since my family's not usually around me, but I'd feel foolish if I started dating someone and I had to tell her I was still hiding from my family. Really, what are they going to do? Kick me out of the house or take away my allowance? I think not
I realize I've just made this worse for myself by not telling them sooner. This whole situation could have been avoided. How to you think I should handle this? Thanks for your advice!