rachelllll.
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i know that labeling sexuality isn't important, but i feel like if i could define my sexuality it would make things a lot easier to me. i also know that only i know how i really feel, but i'm confused about how i feel! haha.
the thing that makes me the most confused is that i didn't really realize my feelings for girls until last year, when i was 14. it actually started because i found out that one of my friends (a girl) kind of liked me. i was shocked by that but at the same time i was like, "oh." and then i was like, "i could like her." and i don't think my feelings for her were necessarilly genuine, but after that i started noticing girls in a different way.
i've never been in a relationship, so i've never done anything with boys or anything like that, but i've also never done anything with girls. i've liked boys before, or so i thought, but i can't see myself in a relationship with a guy. i can find them attractive but i don't want to date them. but at the same time idk if that's because i'm gay or because i'm really insecure and i feel like a relationship with a girl would be nicer? idk.
also, i just really like when people pay attention to me (i'm an attention whore okay) so like if i think a boy likes me i'll like him back but i could never date him. y'know?
i need some help because i really want to come out but idk if i'm gay or bisexual. i don't want to come out as bi at first like a lot of people do because i don't really like boys but at the same time if i say i'm a lesbian and then i like a guy i'll identify more with bisexual. and i know that that part doesn't matter because i believe that sexuality is fluid but i feel like it would be confusing for me and the people around me.
so idk i guess what i'm asking is do i sound more lesbian or bi? and which should i identify with if i come out? (and i know i'm young [15] and there's lots of time to figure things out but i don't like figuring things out dfjglkjfljg i want it to be easier than it is.)
also i'm sorry this is a HUGE paragraph. i swear i hit the enter button.......
the thing that makes me the most confused is that i didn't really realize my feelings for girls until last year, when i was 14. it actually started because i found out that one of my friends (a girl) kind of liked me. i was shocked by that but at the same time i was like, "oh." and then i was like, "i could like her." and i don't think my feelings for her were necessarilly genuine, but after that i started noticing girls in a different way.
i've never been in a relationship, so i've never done anything with boys or anything like that, but i've also never done anything with girls. i've liked boys before, or so i thought, but i can't see myself in a relationship with a guy. i can find them attractive but i don't want to date them. but at the same time idk if that's because i'm gay or because i'm really insecure and i feel like a relationship with a girl would be nicer? idk.
also, i just really like when people pay attention to me (i'm an attention whore okay) so like if i think a boy likes me i'll like him back but i could never date him. y'know?
i need some help because i really want to come out but idk if i'm gay or bisexual. i don't want to come out as bi at first like a lot of people do because i don't really like boys but at the same time if i say i'm a lesbian and then i like a guy i'll identify more with bisexual. and i know that that part doesn't matter because i believe that sexuality is fluid but i feel like it would be confusing for me and the people around me.
so idk i guess what i'm asking is do i sound more lesbian or bi? and which should i identify with if i come out? (and i know i'm young [15] and there's lots of time to figure things out but i don't like figuring things out dfjglkjfljg i want it to be easier than it is.)
also i'm sorry this is a HUGE paragraph. i swear i hit the enter button.......