I just want more sex!?

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I am 20y. I am with a girl I like very much for 3 months(20 years too). In those 3 months we have had sex only couple of times. I the begining I understand. It tooks us about a month to know its other. But after our first time, only one more??? And she seemed like enjoying it! I think it's not only unpleasant but weird too.

The most weird is that we have slept together about 30 times!!!!!! I meet with her with all good intentions :) but she tells me that she is tired and just wants to sleep. I know that she studies a lot! (like... a lot) But is it too hard to have little sex for half an hour? Besides we speak for double as long before we fall asleep!

Should I tell her or should I show her? How? She is a bit of inexperienced so I don't know what she is waiting from me.
After the first 2 answers:

I don't think that the confidence is the problem. I suppose that I am the one who lacks it! Last time we slept together I made all of that stuff about seducing. And I made them without planning anything. I did it because I liked it! But NO! Because she had told me that she is tired and she should wake up early the other day she didn't react! I am sure she liked it but didn't get in sex mode. I think that's the problem. She must get in "sex mode". That's why I don't know what to do!
 
boost her confidence, make her feel attractive. You need to learn how to really seduce a woman, don't just ask her if you can have sex tonight, turn her on, tease her, make it all about her, make her want and need your sex. just start with kissing her really gently on her neck. be very very gentle!!! every touch make it so soft its a tickle, touch near but not on her cooch. the more you do that, the more you will turn her on. soft kisses and a gentle touch, if that doesn't work you may be dating an in the closet lesbian... good luck
 
She might be a little intimidated of it :)
You said she is inexperienced, so maybe she's nervous that she isn't meeting your expectations.

Try boosting her confidence a little bit. Tell her you'd like to try something you've never done before, but you're worried you'll look like an idiot doing it. (Make it something simple, like sitting up on the couch, or in the car, or on the floor, nothing technical that might make her feel novice). This way, you both are doing something new, and are on equal inexperience.

While you are doing the deed, talk to her once in a while. Laugh and say you have no idea what you're doing and ask her if she thinks you're doing OK? Ask her if she likes this, or if she thinks it's weird. Ask her if she's willing to try it once or twice more to see if you guys get more comfortable with it. Ask her if there's anything she'd like to try next time.

and... well, maybe you are a little dominant in the bedroom? Maybe it's her personality to be more dominant and she doesn't know it? Maybe it's not as fun as she's expected it to be? I'm shy and quiet, but pretty dominant in bed.

Lastly... Let it be natural. Don't ask for sex, offer to rub her neck, her back, start tickling her, wrestle with her. Whatever fun things you can do that might just naturally turn into sex. Ask her if you could have a night where you do everything but have sex. Foreplay only. The contest is to see how crazy you can drive your partner. Maybe finish the night with some oral satisfaction.
 
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