I just had sex with a male and it was rubbish until I imagined doing it with a girl?

[kapow.]

A little background info: My whole life I've considered myself bisexual. I've been with boys before, and I've been with girls before, and both felt fine. However just recently I've started having sex with my boyfriend, and to say I get little to no satisfaction from it is an understatement. I enjoy watching the tv more, honestly, and I'm a horny kid. Yesterday we were having sex again and I started pretending that I was doing a girl, and suddenly I actually started enjoying it. He noticed the change immediately and afterwards asked me what happened; I didn't know what to say. Does this mean that I'm actually not bisexual if I don't enjoy sex with men but love it with women? I just can't say 'I imagined you were a girl', because, well, that'd prettymuch kill this guy, and he's nice and I don't want to do that to him.

 

[Rebecca S]

Well, maybe you just don't like him as much as you thought you did? If this has never happened with any other guys, then it might just be you don't find him attractive.

You have to decide for yourself. Being a lesbian isn't just about sex, it's about love. If you can't see yourself in a long term relationship with a man, but you could a woman, then maybe you are a lesbian. Good luck, hope I helped.