SadToday22
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pregnant....I feel weird about this, help? I'm 26 and have been married for 5 years. My husband is 30. We both have good jobs and I especially put a lot of extra time/effort into my career and I am currently pursuing my masters, however because the economy sucks, we don't exactly have tons of money. Anyway, I am very happy with life as it is and I know the few things I would like to change will in the near future (I will be receiving a large pay increase upon completion of my masters) so we can afford more vacations to places like Hawaii and/or Greece, Italy, etc. I've never had a desire to have children and my husband feels the same way also. I enjoy partying, my job, freedom, vacations, sports cars, etc way too much to give those things up right now.
Anyway my dilemma is that a majority of my friends are pregnant or new moms. I feel so weird about it. I can't even explain it. I truly am happy for them, I know that a baby can bring lots of joy and love into the world, but I personally just don't want one. With all this baby stuff going around I am literally asked on a daily basis 5-10x when I will be having a little one. How do I respond to that? I hate to be too brutally honest but I honestly don't envy any of my friends with their stretch marks, sleepness nights and drained bank accounts. I am very happy with my life and marriage as is. So why am I receiving all this pressure to have a baby and what is the best way to deal with it? I really am having a hard time accepting that a lot of my friends are changing....I know that many of my friendships will either be non-existant or very different due to all these babies.
Anyway my dilemma is that a majority of my friends are pregnant or new moms. I feel so weird about it. I can't even explain it. I truly am happy for them, I know that a baby can bring lots of joy and love into the world, but I personally just don't want one. With all this baby stuff going around I am literally asked on a daily basis 5-10x when I will be having a little one. How do I respond to that? I hate to be too brutally honest but I honestly don't envy any of my friends with their stretch marks, sleepness nights and drained bank accounts. I am very happy with my life and marriage as is. So why am I receiving all this pressure to have a baby and what is the best way to deal with it? I really am having a hard time accepting that a lot of my friends are changing....I know that many of my friendships will either be non-existant or very different due to all these babies.