I have a quandry to discuss. I usually don't go on these sites and ask but....?

[Outtahere27]

I was writing to a guy I met kinda by mistake on line for about two months. He then gave me his phone number. We started talking on the phone at first every weekend. Then it became a daily ritual. I said "I think we should meet." At first he was resistant. But then he agreed. I met him in his state and I was very attracted to him right away. After a week and a half of having a really great time, I though it was kind of strange he was a bit standoffish when it came to the potentially romantic sector. The day I left he text messaged me "miss you already." Now he says that the reason he did not pursue me romantically is because I remind him of his sister who passed away. I was totally shocked. I had sent him photos, a couple of webcam vids, and he never mentioned this. He said when he met me in person, it became clear there were enough things that were just enough to make him take stock. Do you think he may get over this and see things differently eventually as I am going out again, (and he says I am welcome!) to see him. His friend was surprised I was. Am I fooling myself?

 

[Chuck P]

I'm sure the more he sees of you the less like his sister you'll seem. But I'm sure the wound is still fresh from losing a loved one so he sees her in places he otherwise wouldn't. Maybe just be a friend at first and give him time to mourn. It could only be that you are the only female other than his sister that ever really got close enough to talk to him. Many guys are not as outgoing as you may expect and he may be a hermit of sorts. After all he did meet you online, what does that say about his dating habits?