Maybe it goes deeper than the surface . . . everything happens for a reason. Some men self-esteem is LOW . . . grab him . . . stand naked in front of him and make him touch you . . . if he says no then GRAB him . . . and make him connect with you and increase his drive towards wanting you sexually. When he watches TV and the kids aren't home just throw some porn into the DVD player . . . hey it works. Bottom line is . . . if nothing drastic works . . . therepy would then be the answer . . . but get to the root of the problem.