I had sex with the guy I'm dating--and now I can't stand him?

[beenthere4679]

So..I had sex for the first time last week. It was with a guy I've been dating (and friends with) for about 3 years now. Yes it was painful...yes it was everything ppl say the first time is. Well...it has been a few days, and now I can't really stand him anymore. I like him--but I don't want to talk to him as much as I used to, I don't want to do it again with him...I'd really prefer to slowly stop talking to him...Is this normal!?! I thought women were usually the ones to get attached after the first time--we had discussed that issue before and pretty much pounded into the ground the idea that "developing feelings" for either of us wouldn't be too good....but damn! I can't believe I'm over him this fast!! I'd still be his friend bc I believe that he isss a good person--but part of me can't stand him. I kind of feel as though anything he says to me (compliment wise) is just a bunch of bullshit--and I don't get flattered anymore!!please help..I need advice on what is going on with me!!

 

[Toronto]

you just don't have sexual feelings for him. Until the guy I'm with now, that's how i felt about pretty much everyone I had sex with. Especially the first guy!

 

[kayet5306]

The mystery and charm of him is gone. That's all. You've lost the dreamy look on sex and passion and now you know..it's no fairy tail.Just slow down on the communication, maybe he'll get the hint.

 

[izzy7482]

maybe if it wasnt as good as you thought it would be, you just didnt really feel connected, ya know? well its probably time to move on especialy since you say that you cant stand him..