I had sex with a guy on a first date...?

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ashley k

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We had an immediate physical attraction and though, I tried...I couldn't tell him no. I started seeing this guy in July and its now December. This relationship has been on and off and recently we are having an on moment. Over the few months I have gotten to know him and I am really starting to develop feelings for this guy. I don't know if they are true feelings because I never took the time to really get to know HIM without the sex. So how do I know???

I am kinda jaded tho because he has admitted to me that he has never been in a relationship. I think sometimes he doesn't know how to be a boyfriend. I think I scare him, he tells me he really likes me, thinks im beautiful and fun to be around. Problem is when he spends time with me we just have crazy sex for the majority of the time.

I have broken ties with him several times to let him know that I don't want to have a booty call boy, I want and deserve more than that from him. He tells me that he isn't looking for a piece of ass(...not sure if I believe him) I guess I don't know! Is he worth investing more of my time?? He makes me laugh and we really like being around each other...I guess I am waiting for him to tell me all those wonderful things every girl likes to hear and he hasn't yet. Plus he has set the sex bar so high...I am not sure I will ever find it this good again.

I need some advice! let it rip!
 
agreed with robyn.
try and build something stronger.
he bails? freak out? ull know.
 
Sex isn't the only reason to stay in a relationship.
If you're really developing feelings for him, try going on little dates to let him get to know you more. Little walks, movies, dinner, things like that. Try to get to know each other mentally, since you already know each other physically. Try to go on a few dates that don't result in sex, and see his reaction. Be careful, because it seems like he might just be out for your body, not you. If he gets distant after you don't have it after a few fun little dates, you can tell what's going on here. Going on little dates like that can really spark conversation and bonding - try to feel attracted to the person, not the body. Just show him you're a great person, too, just not a great lover. (:
Good luck, hope it works out.
 
Sex isn't the only reason to stay in a relationship.
If you're really developing feelings for him, try going on little dates to let him get to know you more. Little walks, movies, dinner, things like that. Try to get to know each other mentally, since you already know each other physically. Try to go on a few dates that don't result in sex, and see his reaction. Be careful, because it seems like he might just be out for your body, not you. If he gets distant after you don't have it after a few fun little dates, you can tell what's going on here. Going on little dates like that can really spark conversation and bonding - try to feel attracted to the person, not the body. Just show him you're a great person, too, just not a great lover. (:
Good luck, hope it works out.
 
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