Here's the situation:
I've been friends with this girl for about 1 year now. About 4 months ago, she had her heart broken because her ex-bf cheated on her for another girl. So naturally, she came to me for support and advice. As a friend, I would always be there for her to talk to, hang out with her, etc. Keep in mind that I had absouletly no intentions of hooking up with her at this point in time.
For the next 2 months we became REALLY REALLY close. We would talk on the phone everyday and hang out whenever we could. I don't think there was ever a day in those 2 months that we didn't spend time together. So naturally, somewhere along those 2 months, I started to like her.
I ended up telling her that I had feelings for her cause I didn't want to play any games, wondering, and all of that. To my surprise, she said she only saw me as a friend. I was pretty devastated because honestly, it wasn't an answer i was expecting. But, we decided that we would take a break for a week so I can regroup my emotions and hopefully everyting would get back to normal (ironically, this was what I suggested for her to do to get over her ex).
For the whole week, I missed her greatly, especially during the time at night when we would talk on the phone or during the day when we would be hanging out but isntead i'd be at home or at my buddies house. After the week, she texts me telling me how much she misses me and so we started hanging out again.... BIG MISTAKE.
My feelings never went away, and only ended up growing stronger. A few weeks go by and as we're talking on the phone I tell her that I still have feelings for her... but to my dismay I end up getting rejected once again.
Few weeks go by and everything is a little weird now. She refuses to hang out with me one on one anymore and we stop talking on the phone at night. I confront of her about whether or not she will ever give me a chance because I just can't seem to stop loving her. She says that she could give me a chance but it would be half-assed and out of pity. I refuse and tell her that I will be needing some time off from her.
It's been over 3 weeks since I've went "cold turkey" on her. I've been missing her greatly and I still think about her from time to time. I hate to admit that I still love her but I do. We've stopped all communications... it's as if me and her were never even friends at all. It's such a shame. A part of me just wants to get back to being friends with her.. but at the same time I'm scared that my feelings will get stronger and I'll be right back to where I started.
Can anybody with experience in this situation shed some light? I have no idea what to do.
I've been friends with this girl for about 1 year now. About 4 months ago, she had her heart broken because her ex-bf cheated on her for another girl. So naturally, she came to me for support and advice. As a friend, I would always be there for her to talk to, hang out with her, etc. Keep in mind that I had absouletly no intentions of hooking up with her at this point in time.
For the next 2 months we became REALLY REALLY close. We would talk on the phone everyday and hang out whenever we could. I don't think there was ever a day in those 2 months that we didn't spend time together. So naturally, somewhere along those 2 months, I started to like her.
I ended up telling her that I had feelings for her cause I didn't want to play any games, wondering, and all of that. To my surprise, she said she only saw me as a friend. I was pretty devastated because honestly, it wasn't an answer i was expecting. But, we decided that we would take a break for a week so I can regroup my emotions and hopefully everyting would get back to normal (ironically, this was what I suggested for her to do to get over her ex).
For the whole week, I missed her greatly, especially during the time at night when we would talk on the phone or during the day when we would be hanging out but isntead i'd be at home or at my buddies house. After the week, she texts me telling me how much she misses me and so we started hanging out again.... BIG MISTAKE.
My feelings never went away, and only ended up growing stronger. A few weeks go by and as we're talking on the phone I tell her that I still have feelings for her... but to my dismay I end up getting rejected once again.
Few weeks go by and everything is a little weird now. She refuses to hang out with me one on one anymore and we stop talking on the phone at night. I confront of her about whether or not she will ever give me a chance because I just can't seem to stop loving her. She says that she could give me a chance but it would be half-assed and out of pity. I refuse and tell her that I will be needing some time off from her.
It's been over 3 weeks since I've went "cold turkey" on her. I've been missing her greatly and I still think about her from time to time. I hate to admit that I still love her but I do. We've stopped all communications... it's as if me and her were never even friends at all. It's such a shame. A part of me just wants to get back to being friends with her.. but at the same time I'm scared that my feelings will get stronger and I'll be right back to where I started.
Can anybody with experience in this situation shed some light? I have no idea what to do.