Blueberry Head
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After months of agonising over it I decided to tell my best male friend I have a crush on him. Mutual friends told me to and I realised I would always wonder "what if" even though I suspected he wasn't interested.
My suspicion was right. He didn't even know what to say when I told him, he basically just apologised and changed the subject and carried on as usual. He was a very good friend, almost clingy, he'd contact me daily, wants to discuss lots of stuff with him, asks to hang out, will even hang out with me and my group of girl friends from high school, haha. And I know he finds me attractive because a few times we've been swimming together and stuff and he gets erections, lol. He tells me I'm hot too.
So despite being my best friend and thinking I'm hot he doesn't want to date me, I feel weird though he just glossed over it and is pretending everything's normal, how should I act? I feel like it was a big deal telling him, he said we could talk about it if I wanted but he didn't know what to say. He didn't even officially reject me either but he didn't suggest we get together or something. I know he wants a girlfriend, he's complained to me about being lonely, and no other girl has shown interest in him in the last year (he's nice, but honestly not that hot) so I think it's an even worse rejection because of that.
Should I talk about it? Ask for reasons? Try and be nice/pushy and ask him out? (Hey, most of the girls I know in relationships just pushed for it, lol.) Or should I just pretend like it never happened, still be his best friend always there for him (he's always there for me too, except now), and hope I can continue on even though it feels like I'm dying inside and I'm embarrassed?
I don't think I'm reversing gender roles at all, every girl I know in a relationship was the one who started things, go figure
I'm 23
I am definitely not going to chase after him but he clearly wants to be friends, I'm wondering if I should or not. Friends like him don't come around every day though, I mean he doesn't like me but he is lots of fun to talk to and very supportive.
Bunny I think you're a bit silly, I can't just go through my life waiting for people to pursue me and being desperate for me while I all act cool, it doesn't work like that
My suspicion was right. He didn't even know what to say when I told him, he basically just apologised and changed the subject and carried on as usual. He was a very good friend, almost clingy, he'd contact me daily, wants to discuss lots of stuff with him, asks to hang out, will even hang out with me and my group of girl friends from high school, haha. And I know he finds me attractive because a few times we've been swimming together and stuff and he gets erections, lol. He tells me I'm hot too.
So despite being my best friend and thinking I'm hot he doesn't want to date me, I feel weird though he just glossed over it and is pretending everything's normal, how should I act? I feel like it was a big deal telling him, he said we could talk about it if I wanted but he didn't know what to say. He didn't even officially reject me either but he didn't suggest we get together or something. I know he wants a girlfriend, he's complained to me about being lonely, and no other girl has shown interest in him in the last year (he's nice, but honestly not that hot) so I think it's an even worse rejection because of that.
Should I talk about it? Ask for reasons? Try and be nice/pushy and ask him out? (Hey, most of the girls I know in relationships just pushed for it, lol.) Or should I just pretend like it never happened, still be his best friend always there for him (he's always there for me too, except now), and hope I can continue on even though it feels like I'm dying inside and I'm embarrassed?
I don't think I'm reversing gender roles at all, every girl I know in a relationship was the one who started things, go figure
I'm 23
I am definitely not going to chase after him but he clearly wants to be friends, I'm wondering if I should or not. Friends like him don't come around every day though, I mean he doesn't like me but he is lots of fun to talk to and very supportive.
Bunny I think you're a bit silly, I can't just go through my life waiting for people to pursue me and being desperate for me while I all act cool, it doesn't work like that