Pursuit of Happiness
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I'm only 15 and I know its only sophomore year, and there's still 2 years to go, but it honestly feels like every other girl has at least been asked out to a school dance.
People tell me I'm really pretty, so I don't think it's looks. I'm at the top of my classes too. I also do sports (tennis, lacrosse, track and field). And I try to be nice to everyone and I'm really friendly. I'm kind of shy but this year I have definitely gotten out of my shell a lot more.
The problem I think, is the friends I hang out with, don't get asked either. I mean it's not like they are unattractive (just to clarify), but they are all really artsy and don't talk to guys, and we don't hang out in a mixed guy/girl group during break or lunch, like most of the other kids at our school. And I understand that most people meet their dates/boyfriends through class, but the relationship generally starts from being friends both in class and outside of class. But cause I don't hang out in such a group, I'm kind of stuck in a rut. I talk to guys in class but cause I don't hang out in the guy/girl groups, I don't have much of a chance to get to know a guy genuinely.
I meet cute guys but I don't have a chance to get to know them well. Not only because of my friend circle, but also because I live really far from school and I can't drive yet, so I'm not really able to make sudden plans after school, you know? And to make things worse, I'm getting tired of my friend group right now. I feel like there are some people I am still really close to, but others I am growing farther away from, and I just now am seeing how much stress they are causing in my life. I'm seeing that some of these people aren't positive influences in my life and I want to get away from them, but have no where to go!
I know that there's still so much time ahead to find someone, but I hate this feeling, that I sort of know what the source of the problem is, and I can't do anything about it. Because if I start suddenly hanging out in a different group, when everyone has had established friend circles for years on, it will seem that I'm trying to get "popular" and get guys.
Any advice?
People tell me I'm really pretty, so I don't think it's looks. I'm at the top of my classes too. I also do sports (tennis, lacrosse, track and field). And I try to be nice to everyone and I'm really friendly. I'm kind of shy but this year I have definitely gotten out of my shell a lot more.
The problem I think, is the friends I hang out with, don't get asked either. I mean it's not like they are unattractive (just to clarify), but they are all really artsy and don't talk to guys, and we don't hang out in a mixed guy/girl group during break or lunch, like most of the other kids at our school. And I understand that most people meet their dates/boyfriends through class, but the relationship generally starts from being friends both in class and outside of class. But cause I don't hang out in such a group, I'm kind of stuck in a rut. I talk to guys in class but cause I don't hang out in the guy/girl groups, I don't have much of a chance to get to know a guy genuinely.
I meet cute guys but I don't have a chance to get to know them well. Not only because of my friend circle, but also because I live really far from school and I can't drive yet, so I'm not really able to make sudden plans after school, you know? And to make things worse, I'm getting tired of my friend group right now. I feel like there are some people I am still really close to, but others I am growing farther away from, and I just now am seeing how much stress they are causing in my life. I'm seeing that some of these people aren't positive influences in my life and I want to get away from them, but have no where to go!
I know that there's still so much time ahead to find someone, but I hate this feeling, that I sort of know what the source of the problem is, and I can't do anything about it. Because if I start suddenly hanging out in a different group, when everyone has had established friend circles for years on, it will seem that I'm trying to get "popular" and get guys.
Any advice?