i feel discusting that i once slept with a guy who is now a sex-offender?

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Peachy

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when i was 18 i started seeing this guy, we were basically only together a couple of weeks, but we did have sex. he was also 18 at the time.
he seemed a bit unstable, like not quite right in the head, but i saw no evidence of him being a pedo or anything like that.
anyway NOW we are in our early 20s and i know this guy even tho i am not his friend or anything, i know he hangs around with teenage girls, he let a 15 year old girl perform sexual acts on him, and he has slept with two 14 year olds, and probably lots of other stuff like that altho i dont know for sure....
i feel discustingly soiled to think i once had sex with this man, should i feel bad about it? how can i get over the entire thing?
those ppl who ar making judgemental comments that i shudnt have slept with someone when i didnt know them well - leave it out - as if we dont all sleep with ppl we dont really know when we are in our teens.
sash - i think its predatiry that he hangs around with them in the hope of persuading them into sex.
 
thats in the past, so i dont think you should let it bother you. but you definitely shouldnt have slept with him when you clearly didnt know him too well. i hopeee this taught you a lesson
 
thats in the past, so i dont think you should let it bother you. but you definitely shouldnt have slept with him when you clearly didnt know him too well. i hopeee this taught you a lesson
 
I am sure we all have ex-boyfriends, or ex-flings that have done dirty deeds in the past. But what does that have to do with us? It isn't your fault that your now ex is a sex offender, and you should just move on with the rest of your life!
 
You have stated that he is a 'Sex Offender', though you fail to offer an details of the actual offences he has been charged with! Or is this NOT what you mean?

That, as you state, > he let a 15 year old girl perform sexual acts on him < may well technically make him a sex offender (as she is under the legal age of consent), but then it doesn't make him in fact an 'Offender' ...as in predatory.

He may well have done lots of things that are unsavoury, illegal, unpleasant etc etc, but then so could any of the other boys and men you have had sex with ....and know nothing about this, their potential behaviour.

I don't think that you can simply 'get over the whole thing', except other than seeing it in perspective and understanding that not everyone behaves the same ....not everyone washes their hands after going to the toilet ....and then touches door handles, shakes hands, picks things up that others in turn do ....And, that surprising, so many of us do not die as a result.

Sash.
 
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