I dont want to be judge or people being mean but I need some honest advice. I am in a...

[just a single dad]

...relationship with? another man. We have had money problems and I lost my job,. I have been looking for another but only have a part time right now and no one is interviewing me, most likely because I got fired. any way we have had problems paying for bills, hes been drinking and its gotten violent. I have covered his mouth to shut him up from yelling because the land lord is behind us and hes been smashing things saying I am cheating on him and that I held him back from seeing his grandma who is in a home. I am not by the way. tonight he hit me and tore my pants pocket trying to get keys from me, i didn't want him to drive drunk. I am not drinking at all. I got a daughter who lives with me and he says if I call the cops he would tell them I hit him and she would be taken away, plus I have no car to get me to work, mine needs allot of work, no money to fix it . I am buying a mobile home on land contract and I am not using him but we got this together. I am scared of him when he drinks and he wont get help. He says he don't remember hitting me, my question is what do I do, I cant afford an apartment on my own right now and don't have any family to help, I don't want to live on the street with my daughter who is nine. I am from wisconsin and don't know of any help the state can help with rent.

 

[vance1167]

your child should not be living with that psycho!!

 

[The Romantic Egoist]

Look, an abusive relationship isn't going to help you or your daughter. It's domestic abuse whether you're gay or not. Call up some shelters * even though most are geared toward women* and tell them your situation. I'm not saying, by any stretch of the imagination, that you're particularly feminine for being gay, lord knows I know that's not true. But I am saying that you should realize that abuse is never allowed in a relationship. Part of me wants to suggest beating him up yourself, but clearly that's not the answer.

I think you know what you need to do: leave. Being homeless is bad, but staying is worse. Call the police next time your partner hits you- press charges, get help for abused partners.

Good luck!

Remember you're important and nobody has the right to molest you like that.

 

[Ben]

Hi, I am sorry you are going through such a rough time. I would definitely say you need to get out of that situation. I understand you are having problems money wise, but if he is becoming abusive, that is an even worse situation to be in. My biggest fear is that if he hits you, what would stop him from hitting your daughter? And with her seeing any of this, it can be damaging emotionally to her. I am sure that it scares and upsets her.

Keep searching for some type of aide that can help you find a place that you can afford, or a roommate that can help split the costs with you. I wish you the best of luck. You and your daughter certainly deserve better than this.