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I need to start off by saying I do love my daughter, she's very sweet, kind hearted and beautiful inside and out. But at the same time, she drives me crazy. She's only 4 and cries at the drop of a hat, about anything and everything. I try to parent with patience because I understand that what seems small and petty to me might be something huge to her. I try to encourage, listen, be sympathetic when needed and show love as much as I can.
She doesn't enjoy the things I enjoy, she actually doesn't enjoy much of anything. She doesn't want to take dance, cheer or gymnastics, she also doesn't want to do less active classes like music or art. I try to encourage her to do ANYTHING besides sit around whining and crying all day (I don't say it like this to her) but she doesn't understand. Her older sister is active and her baby brother is a normal happy baby. No, her behavior isn't a response to her siblings, she has been like this since she was a baby. NO SHE IS NOT AUTISTIC. She just doesn't want to do anything and is extremely emotional. She also has hypotonia/"floppy baby syndrome" and speech apraxia...meaning she has very low muscle mass and tires VERY easily and cannot speak well (do a youtube search if you are curious).
At one point my parents agreed to let her stay with them for a month or two because we thought it might help her emotionally to have one on one time but even they changed their mind because of the constant whining and crying. It hurts me because I feel like no one wants her.
My husband chalks it up to her being a needy 4 year old but he works all day, comes home and plays with the kids for 2 hours then they are off to bed.
I am starting to feel resentment toward her. I'm not sure how to piece together my emotions. Disappointment, resentment, anger, sadness...I do everything I can do never show her how I feel but lately I find myself snapping at her, which upsets me because I don't want to become "that mom"...But I suppose it is a good thing that I'm realizing all this now before things get out of control. I have tried talking to family and friends but they just say I'm being "emotional" because of the new baby and hormones, which is not true. I've actually been feeling this way for about 2.5-3 years now, it's just getting "worse".
And I might as well admit this since this board is anonymous, but sometimes I want to just abandon her with my husband and leave them both (marriage issues are a seperate issue and we don't need to go there). My 6 year old and 1 year old are great but my 4 year old, God bless her, just stresses everyone out, even the other children.
I don't know what to do. I have no one to talk to. I've also tried therapy but the counselor I saw suggested post partum depression as well and I do not believe that is the case.
I want to accept her, I want to love her, I want to like her...but she just drives me crazy. I now find myself nit picking her mannerisms. Even when she is being "normal" and kind (she loves to snuggle, for example), I have been finding myself not even wanting to do that...I still do though, but there have been times I move away after a few minutes
Advice please!
She doesn't enjoy the things I enjoy, she actually doesn't enjoy much of anything. She doesn't want to take dance, cheer or gymnastics, she also doesn't want to do less active classes like music or art. I try to encourage her to do ANYTHING besides sit around whining and crying all day (I don't say it like this to her) but she doesn't understand. Her older sister is active and her baby brother is a normal happy baby. No, her behavior isn't a response to her siblings, she has been like this since she was a baby. NO SHE IS NOT AUTISTIC. She just doesn't want to do anything and is extremely emotional. She also has hypotonia/"floppy baby syndrome" and speech apraxia...meaning she has very low muscle mass and tires VERY easily and cannot speak well (do a youtube search if you are curious).
At one point my parents agreed to let her stay with them for a month or two because we thought it might help her emotionally to have one on one time but even they changed their mind because of the constant whining and crying. It hurts me because I feel like no one wants her.
My husband chalks it up to her being a needy 4 year old but he works all day, comes home and plays with the kids for 2 hours then they are off to bed.
I am starting to feel resentment toward her. I'm not sure how to piece together my emotions. Disappointment, resentment, anger, sadness...I do everything I can do never show her how I feel but lately I find myself snapping at her, which upsets me because I don't want to become "that mom"...But I suppose it is a good thing that I'm realizing all this now before things get out of control. I have tried talking to family and friends but they just say I'm being "emotional" because of the new baby and hormones, which is not true. I've actually been feeling this way for about 2.5-3 years now, it's just getting "worse".
And I might as well admit this since this board is anonymous, but sometimes I want to just abandon her with my husband and leave them both (marriage issues are a seperate issue and we don't need to go there). My 6 year old and 1 year old are great but my 4 year old, God bless her, just stresses everyone out, even the other children.
I don't know what to do. I have no one to talk to. I've also tried therapy but the counselor I saw suggested post partum depression as well and I do not believe that is the case.
I want to accept her, I want to love her, I want to like her...but she just drives me crazy. I now find myself nit picking her mannerisms. Even when she is being "normal" and kind (she loves to snuggle, for example), I have been finding myself not even wanting to do that...I still do though, but there have been times I move away after a few minutes
Advice please!